Children Chapter IV Khalil Gibran

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This poem by Khalil Gibran  found a place in my heart ever since I read it .

It resonates with times of today, maybe even more than when it was first written. Yet the expectations parents have from the children doesn’t follow any time line. It has always been demanding. This poem particularly the line ‘ you may give them your love but not your thoughts’ explains explicitly how every generation before us has had the same dilemma  when bringing up their offspring

 

And a woman who held a babe against her bosom said, “Speak to us of Children.”
And he said:
Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you, yet they belong not to you.
You may give them your love but not your thoughts.
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite, and He bends you with His might that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer’s hand be for gladness;
For even as he loves the arrow that flies, so He loves also the bow that is stable.

 

Madhavi

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Red Lipstick

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Red Lipstick of little hope –  A good write up by  Twinkle Khanna

My grandmother is 77. She has perfectly coloured hair with not a root in sight, her nails artfully manicured and her clothes always immaculate. I tease her about her interest in all these superficial things and she exclaims that I, in my dal-stained jeans, have always been a total disgrace to the family. Every Friday, she goes for her prayers in the prettiest cotton saris with a string of pearls around her neck.

What is so extraordinary about her story, you may wonder?

She is a woman who has seen three out of her four children die before her very eyes.
Sometimes I think the tiny joy she gets from her little indulgences is what keeps her going and distracts her from the anguish she must have gone through seeing what she has.

My childhood friends – two lovely sisters – lost their mother a few years ago. When I went for the prayer meeting, I was slightly taken aback to see them wearing a lot of makeup. I would have judged them as very shallow if I had not been close to their family and knew how much they had loved their mother and how devastated they were at her demise. Maybe this was their way of getting through this terrible day, maybe they needed a mask to keep everything together, maybe their mom who I had never seen without a large bright bindi on her forehead, would be the only one who understood

My friend recently separated from her husband. She now lives alone with her young daughter, goes to the gym every single day and is looking like a million bucks. Her wardrobe has changed dramatically from kurtas to pretty dresses. Every once in a while, we catch up for coffee and each time I see her, she seems to look leaner, fitter and happier.

I go to visit a family friend in the hospital. She has been dealing with cancer for a while now and though she is lucky to have tremendous family support, only she knows what it is like to deal with fear and pain on a daily basis. She is sitting in her hospital bed in her pajamas, with a turban jauntily perched on her head. And on her lips, she is wearing the brightest, happiest red lipstick. When I ask her about it, she says that whenever she feels low and run down, she puts on her lipstick and it just cheers her up tremendously.

A pretty dress, a new haircut, a string of pearls are all trivial material things that should not matter because they have nothing to do with our inner self, but we forget that our physical form is strongly connected to our identity. It is how we interact with the world around us.

When my family friend puts on her red lipstick, she is telling the world that she still has HOPE.

There is no one of us who doesn’t experience problems in life…Never allow them to drag you down….Sometimes, the only thing you have left is HOPE.

Hope that every tomorrow of yours is more special than yesterday..

On that note …Put on the Red Lipstick. Adjust the crown on your head and Face the world!!

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Take care of YOU!

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YOU are responsible for what YOU eat. The food is passed on from YOUR hands to YOUR mouth to YOUR stomach and provides nourishment to YOUR body.

Take care of YOU!

The thoughts YOU think, goes into YOUR mind, to process the feeling of positivity or negativity. Think wisely. Don’t let others ideas, thoughts, and beliefs influence YOUR feelings.

Take care of YOU!

YOU have to take out time from the busy schedule to exercise YOUR body. The workout will benefit YOU. Don’t allow others to decide how YOU spend YOUR time.

Take care of YOU!

YOU are the only one in this whole wide world who will love YOU unconditionally. Before YOU love others, love YOURSELF first.

Take care of YOU!

YOUR knowledge is the only thing that will remain with YOU forever. Use YOUR money and YOUR time to invest in YOUR own education first.

Take care of YOU!

Never stop learning. YOU are only as old as YOU allow YOURSELF to be. Age should never be an issue when it comes to adding value to YOUR life.

Take care of YOU!

It’s YOUR Life. And it is meant to be lived, to explore, to learn and to share. Sharing YOUR knowledge is one of the greatest gifts YOU can give to others.

Take care of YOU!

YOUR life is the result of YOUR own hard work. Don’t judge YOUR worth by other people’s success stories. Only YOU know the struggles YOU went through to reach where YOU are today.

Take care of YOU!

Surround YOURSELF around the people who know YOU, Not with those who think they know YOU. Family and real friends are irreplaceable. They will stand by YOU forever.

Take care of YOU!

Never ever forget that YOU are enough.

YOU are what matters.

YOUR happiness.

YOUR mental peace.

YOUR struggles.

Everything begins and ends in YOUR life by just YOU. Everyone else and everything else is just temporary.  YOU are the only one who will remain with YOU till the end of YOUR time.

LOVE YOURSELF COMPLETELY & PASSIONATELY.

Take care of YOU!

madhavi 🙂

 

 

Was it a coincidence? I think not.

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Nothing in what happens in your life is a coincidence.

Everything is predetermined and preordained by the creator. Two incidents in the past few days have reinforced my belief that coincidences are merely what you attract in your life at that particular time.

Good things, bad things…whatever it may be, it’s all happening the way it should be unfolded.

Life’s lessons are usually learnt in some uncomfortable circumstances. The lessons that teach you to either let go or have more faith.

Let’s go a little back here to emphasise the point I am getting at. Sometimes life’s responsibilities drag you into a whirlpool of immense work and you have less choice but to face that task alone. And those responsibilities bring with them a tsunami of intense emotions that take over your logical mind completely and leave you vulnerable and naked to negativity.

While I am a stay at home caretaker to an aged parent, I sometimes feel the need to take a breather from the stress of daily duties and just unwind. Some days that is possible, but when a long period of time goes by, the things at hand go so out of control that I am on the verge of losing my mind.

I do have house help, to handle the daily requirements, but there is no one around most of the time to have a decent conversation with.

I do have friends but then they too have their own issues to deal with and we can’t seem to find a common time to meet up to just enjoy each other’s company. I mean how much can one talk on the phone? My mind yearns to have conversations which ‘feed my soul’. Or just meet people who can change my perspective on things without sounding condescending.

Sometimes on weekends when the man of the house is in to share in his bit, I do like to go off to the parlour and self indulge in a little pampering. So about 2 weeks back as I was about to go for one of my ‘perk me up’ sessions I sent a silent prayer to the universe to please let me meet someone who I can have a normal and regular chit chat with. And guess what!

She came! Right there in the parlour.

I had never seen or met her before. I do not know who she was. But we just connected, and got talking, about random things, about poetry, about religion, about soul mates and twin flames.

There was no awkwardness. Our energies were synchronising together and the conversation just started flowing like a meandering river. The time just flew by. We spend nearly two hours talking.

It was the most liberating soul nourishing experience I have had after a long time. Suddenly all the stress and tension in my body seemed to evaporate.

Let me narrate another incident if this isn’t enough to satisfy your curiosity. I was in tatters and tears a couple of days back. Life felt like a huge burden I could not carry anymore. Although I am usually very strong about the upheavals in my life and take it in stride, but that day was I like walking on fire with my eyes open. I had had enough.

There are times when family can never understand what you are going through. And at times like these you turn to the one you feel most comfortable with, a friend or a colleague, or even a guru or mentor, to vent out your insecurities and your negativity.

And out of the blue without thinking much, I just decided to vent out my feelings to a dear friend. He has a very positive and calming influence on my mind.  He gives me the silent non judgmental, but at the same time an understated and tremendous support which is invaluable for me. He can read my mind. He is like a punching bag for me. I can just spew on a lot of things on him and he never complains about me nagging him. He quietly listens.

He just read the text full of negativity and ranting and texted back ‘what time can I speak to you? That’s it. That’s all I wanted to hear I guess. That he was around. That I wasn’t alone.

I knew he listened and understood what was happening. Sometimes that’s all you ever need. For someone to listen and not give you strong words of advice.

So anyway, I did not want to talk to him as then it would have me crying bucketfuls in front of him and that is something I definitely did not want to do. I cannot do that. No matter what shit I am going through I just cannot cry in front of anyone. It’s just not me.

Anyway what I am coming to is that he had changed his profile pic a few minutes back. And it was no coincidence that it had to happen at such a crucifying time for me. After I sent him my message I just opened his pic and was looking at it for a long time. It was like he was near me, his eyes urging me to hold on and be strong.

It was as if the universe was looking out for me, because suddenly my mood shifted. I became calm. There was no anxiety or bitterness left in my heart anymore.

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Were these two incidents just a mere coincidence? I think not. And if it was, then I would say that such meaningful coincidences help get us to places we need to be without knowing how we got there.

You may call it Fate or Mystery, or the Universe or God, but it’s about all the things happening to us or falling into place or coming together in a surprising, unexpected way without an obvious explanation. As you begin to accept it as synchronicity it drastically changes your life.

Everything that happens is predetermined and will be revealed to us when our soul is ready to accept the change. Synchronicity is like a mirror – whatever you believe in and manifest for yourself, it will reflect back to you. You just have to believe in it.

It is for a reason that your spirit guides never fails to tell you to be positive and not let the negative take on your senses and bog you down.

The Chance meeting with that woman or the picture of my friend changing at that precise moment was not a coincidence. It was written in my soul plan. The Universe was merely reflecting back to me what I was attracting at that moment. Such incidents are rarely an accident. Sometimes I agree things are not in our control but our realities are largely the result of our unconscious wants and the energies that manifest within.

The point is that everything you attract into your life – every person, every object, and every experience –has all been drawn into your reality by none other than YOU

 

Think about this!!

madhavi