You will spot her from a mile away. She holds her head a little higher and she has a certain air about her when she walks. Making her own way in the world, she knows how to get what she wants……Yup SHE is an Alpha Woman.
So, why is it that most men are scared shit of an alpha female?
Well, I guess men don’t like to be challenged, especially by women. I hate to say this, but in most cases this is true. So, when women challenge them, men feel uncomfortable and intimidated with the idea that a woman might be better than them and because they are afraid they might lose their ‘macho-provider’ attitude.
Some men rely on good looks and a few pick-up lines to impress a woman. BUT, Alpha women don’t fall for that kind of crap. They need much more from a man to be impressed (if they are to be impressed at all). They want brains, looks, humor…They want the whole package—because they themselves are the whole package. Too many people think that an alpha woman is just a dominating bitch with no softness to her, but that’s not true at all. Her soft side is as powerful as her hustle.
Let’s not beat around the bush and face the facts here. It takes a very strong and secure man to date an Alpha woman.
And if you land yourself an alpha female, it’s pretty normal that the more you get to know her, the more she will scare the hell out of you, because of how fearless and outspoken she is.
She says and does things with great intensity, and it can be a lot all at once if you’re used to women who are more doting and submissive.
She’s as fierce with her words as she is with her heart and if she falls for a man, she falls deeply. There’s no in between with an alpha female. She works hard, plays hard, and loves harder.
An alpha woman isn’t one to sit back and let life come to her — she goes out and makes stuff happen for herself. She’s not a lazy partner and makes sure life is organized and stress-free. She genuinely enjoys responsibility. Alpha women seek partners who are motivated and want to build empires with the men they choose to spend their lives with. SHE’LL PUSH YOU TO BECOME BETTER.
She’s not the type that’ll let herself go because her personality type simply won’t allow it. She takes care of her health, her finances and her emotional well-being no matter what disaster might be thrown her way. She’ll do whatever she needs to feel good about herself because feeling amazing allows her to bring her best and happiest self to the relationship.
She might come across as too much to handle or as a woman who doesn’t need anyone, but if she chooses to date you, remember she chose you too.
Dating her is a pretty amazing experience if you can look past the initial intimidating traits she possesses because those traits are actually what make dating her one of the best experiences you’ll ever have.
If you’re brave enough fully submerge yourself in the relationship, you’ll wonder why you hadn’t dated an amazing alpha female sooner.
But the question here is how? How do I know who is the real me?
Finding oneself may be searching for the purpose of your life to say it in a broader sense. But actually, it is finding and knowing yourself through the innumerable priceless moments you experience daily. Life is not some kind of a board game, which you have to play it in one go from start to finish.
Life has many ‘rasas’. (Rasa is a Sanskrit word and has many translations in English, the main ones being: essence, juice, nectar, taste, or sap.)
Rasa is in everything, or I should say… everything has Rasa. Though some things have a higher vibrational essence, others have lower. Rasa is the invisible substance that gives life meaning.
Quoting Aristotle, who said ‘Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.”
To truly know yourself is the most important skill you can ever possess. When you know who you are, you will instinctively know what you need to do, instead of looking for permission from others.
And the best way to find this is to be still. Meditate. Look within. Just be with your own some lonesome. It is a perfect time to be one with yourself and evaluating yourself. That’s when you are truly truthful about you and every other facet of your life.
Many people don’t know themselves because any sort of silence scares them; it’s too uncomfortable to be alone with every flaw staring back at them. But being quiet and discovering your true self is so highly addictive.
Find what you are good at (and not good at).This might be the most difficult step in the process of finding who you are, but it’s a necessary one. Give yourself ample time of trial and error to find what you’re good at, and don’t give up before you’ve had more than enough attempts.
Quit only when your efforts aren’t giving back in return. What is ample time? Only you can decide that. But when you quit correctly, it isn’t giving up, it’s making room for something better. When your actions do nothing but drain you—rather than produce more passion and increase your drive to do more—that’s a good sign it is time to focus elsewhere.
This will also lead you realizing where your true passion lies. Pay attention
And if you think asking a friend or a family member what they have to say about you could help, go ahead and do that. Of course, their opinion isn’t going to be perfect, but their feedback will probably indicate a few areas you may want to at least take a second look at.
A large aspect of knowing yourself can be found in your relationships. Almost as much as you need to know yourself, other people also need to know who you are. People need you—the real you.
Because when you understand who you are meant to be, your purpose will finally become bigger than your fears.
And remember to stop chasing people. If they block you or cut off contact with you or ignore you, let them go. The ones who enjoy your energy and what you bring to the table will naturally gravitate towards you. Stop trying to ‘prove your worth’ and cling on to relationships just because they made you happy once. Let them off and cherish those who want you and want to be with you by their own free will and not because you want them to be.
Finding what you really want from your life is going to be a tough call. You will have to let go of a lot of things that you held close to your heart.
Pay close attention to those moments that leave you truly satisfied and happy? That’s the voice of your soul calling.
You may have heard the phrase – “do not settle.” Understand this. We are all meant for great things and eventually we all come together to form a great world.
Nothing stops us but our limited thoughts.
Nothing helps us grow like our imagination.
Do not let your fears kill your dreams or potential.
Challenge your fears and make them disappear.
Your greatest strength has always been You .
And remember to-
‘Love yourself the way you wish to be loved by others’.
Love is not supposed to feel like pain. Love should liberate you from the bondage of attachment. Love is meant to empower you and become your strength. Love should make you feel worthy of yourself. Love is supposed to build you up and make you shine from inside out.
You will know it’s love when you find the one.
He /she won’t be coming into your life with a light over their head looking for you or shouting from rooftops announcing that they are the one. You won’t feel any butterflies in your stomach or have some fancy dreams like they show in the movies.
It’s going to be a very very ordinary encounter when that special person walks into your life. They will not attempt to stand out of the crowd with their talk and their behaviour.
They will be the quiet and comforting kinds. The one, who will listen to your nonstop idiotic jabber with a wonder in their eyes and a smile on their faces. They will think that you are a complete fool. They will even make fun of your every move and laugh at your nonsense.
But they will be kind, funny and safe.
You will feel like being in the safest place on earth when you are with them. You can sit with them in total silence and it won’t be awkward or boring.
They will win your trust before they win your heart.
They won’t be the most significant person to you at first, but you will be invariably drawn to them like a magnet. And when they become the most important person in your life you will settle for no other.
You will never question their motive but rather believe them wholeheartedly.
They will be the one who understands your mood by just a text message you send them. They will know and understand that you have your bad days and that you are not perfect in any way, but will stick around you in spite of it all. They will know how to cope with your mood swings and how to control your anger.
They will stand by you; stand by your fears and your dreams, your hopes and your insecurities. They will stand with you and help you build your confidence. They will motivate and inspire you.
They will respect you for who you are, never trying to change you or your beliefs.
They will let you live your life according to your whims .They will protect you and guide you.
They will definitely sweep you off your feet but it will be a slow gradual sweeping- the one you won’t even realize.
They will love you quietly in their own sweet way. But that love will be worth every ounce of its weight in ‘gold’
That’s when you will know whom your heart and soul belongs to.
Have you ever met someone new or even talked to them for a few minutes and suddenly you both realize like as if you have known them for your whole life. And it’s even more surprising when it’s just the first time you are meeting or interacting with them?
It’s like they just get you, and you get them.
You form an instant and a natural connection with them, with a comfort level unlike any other. You are drawn to them almost magically.
The conversation flows freely and they understand you, they resonate with you, and they share the similar values and beliefs. They believe in you, your passion, your philosophy, and your purpose. And you believe in theirs.
I think it’s one of the best feelings in the world.
Do you know that it is your soul tribe you have just connected with?
Yes it’s not bizarre! And not to sound exclusive, but they are part of your inner circle and you are in theirs.
It’s a little difficult to explain this if you don’t believe in it. I have had people who say to “it’s all humdrum. There is no such thing as a soul tribe”.
Well all I can say to such people is that “you wouldn’t know. You haven’t met yours yet. I have and I know”!
Have you ever felt all alone and vulnerable at times? Well let me tell you that you are never really alone on your journey. Someday one of your soul tribe will somehow cross paths with you and help guide you along the way. They will come into your life at exactly the right time. And when you connect with someone from your soul tribe, you will feel a sense of wholeness and peace wash over you.
They will be these wholehearted and passion-driven people. Their hearts will be big, their thoughts deep, and their words loving. They will know exactly what you want to accomplish in life because they can sense your energy and they will help support you and accomplish that goal.They will not abandon you when you are lost, but will help you find your way back again. You can feel free to speak your mind and tell them your deep secrets without feeling vulnerable or rejected.
Trust me if you feel a strong connection with someone while you’re going through a tough time, don’t take this as a coincidence. Allow them into your life and nurture that connection.
Having people who really get you and your soul makes life so much more magical. You and your soul tribe are all on a journey. As individuals, but also together. Isn’t that amazing? Because together is better. Because don’t we all “belong to each other.”