Embrace the change

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It’s been a long time, hasn’t it?

A long time since you socialised with your friends.
A long time since you went back to work.
A long time since those coffee breaks and quick drinks.
A long time since you went on that drive.
A long time since you met your love.
A long time since you went on dates.
A long time since you exchanged hugs and kisses.
A long time since you walked the streets and caught the eye of a stranger.
A long time since you had a stroll in the parks.
A long time since you were in the midst of a commotion.
A long time has passed, and so much has changed.
Days, weeks and months flew by, and you are somewhat different now.

You have…….
A sense of comfort in your own solitude.
A sense of strength in your solidarity.
A sense of tranquility in your mind.
A sense of being connected in all this separation.
A sense of purpose.
You have changed, my god you have.
Don’t let anyone take this away from you.
Don’t be forced to shift back to what you used to be.

You have found so much in this space.
Take your time.
You still might be healing.
You still might be on the way to finding your sense of self.
Remember this and remember well.
You have changed, and it’s a good thing.

Cherish it. Celebrate it. Enhance it. .

 

-Madhavi

 

OS:Messagefrombeyond

Lean on to the good stuff & Look at the bright side.

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Foreseers and Scientists have been cautioning us for decades about how abusing the planet will affect us. People from Australia to California, Puerto Rico, and everywhere that flood and fire has broken out, have learned how the climate change will eventually lead to doomsday.  They warned us that planets do get sick too over a few decades, not a few weeks –although slightly slower than populations do.

And, I think, now covid-19 is a reminder that although we seem to think we have a great deal of control over most things that thought literally just flies out of the window, when you realize that you don’t actually. Things can go very, very wrong, and very, very quickly.

Nobody expected the novel Corona virus to flare up this way. What started off in a “wet market” in Wuhan, is killing many people, and shutting millions more inside, with fear as their main companion.

The main thing about a pandemic like this is that it doesn’t discriminate. Whoever you are, wherever you live, you’re vulnerable. While some of us may fare better because of our age or health, the germs themselves are impartial. This means, we are all in the same boat, for better or worse.

And so is the universality of suffering. The virus is an extraordinary event, and the horror it unleashes is extraordinary, too. But suffering is anything but extraordinary. All of us are hostages to forces over which we have no control.

This is not our first test as a species and it won’t be our last. A pandemic like this simply forces us to think about our responsibilities to the people around us. The simplest and probably the most important thing you can do to control the spread of this virus is to take precautions like social distancing. That’s the only way to flatten the epidemic curve, and by doing so will literally save lives.

The cost of this pandemic will be not just financial. What comes next is unclear. And the pain will not be distributed equally. Many people will lose income due to work stoppages or potential lockdowns.

Kids from low-income families will miss meals if schools are cancelled; parents  will miss work if they have to stay home to take care of them; Students in universities are already having nightmares about their future; If companies start laying off workers or give pay cuts the economics of running a household  will become burdensome to so many families .

And the list goes on and on.

But let us not buy into the hysteria of a virus fear. Let us stay strong. We live on a planet where viruses and bacteria are everywhere. Let’s face it fearlessly.

And if we’re fated to go through this passage, we may as well learn something from it.

We are being reminded to keeping loved ones close and that our health is the ultimate abundance. And even though we may feel alone we are actually together in this.

We are being reminded that it is better to live a life with minimum needs and not burden ourselves, our homes, our countries and more importantly our planet, with any more than is absolutely necessary for our survival.

It is teaching us that our villages, towns, cities need not be over-populated, over constructed and over burdened.

It is teaching us to respect the food chain in our ecosystem.

Maybe it is the year of truth, a year of change, a year of the new world. Maybe our planet and the entire human race is going through evolution and changes at the energy levels.

Maybe this disaster is giving us an opportunity to heal and rebuild the planet itself from scratch.

Let us heal our own karma, by putting aside greed, and only thinking of one self. Let us focus on the wellness and well being of each individual, each plant, each species, and each life-form on this planet.

Let us raise our positive vibes together. Let our energy, our vision, our words, and our thoughts, shape how we want our tomorrow to be.

This might also be the moment when we decide to fully embrace the idea that what happens elsewhere matters that there’s no real way to shut out the rest of the planet. That’s true for the virus, which seems to have seeped through most of the world’s borders in a matter of days.

In order for substantive progress to take place humanity needs to operate from a point of solidarity, empathy, equity, and moral clarity.

And also, what we need to understand is the meaning of the Native American proverb, “We do not inherit the earth from our ancestors; we borrow it from our children.”

So let’s take care of each other, our planet and its resources and understand that each sunrise offers us a wonderful new opportunity to make the world a better place for you and me.

-Madhavi

 

OS:The Guardian

Embrace your age.

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As you get older, you gain perspective from the rear view mirror of your life.

There is something about aging that both men and women become more accepting of others and themselves.

This is especially true for women in the age group 50-70. They are less concerned about the opinion of others and are more determined to live life on their own terms.

There have been quite a few women who I have known since they were in their twenties and are now aging gracefully.

I guess it has more to do that after spending pretty much a lot of their youth on tending to their marriage, home and kids and they have more of  “me” time as they get older.  And with that “me” time comes a lot of satisfactory revelations, every now and then on how they would have lived differently if given another chance.

In fact come to think about it, these would have been the same things I would have changed, given the chance.

“I wish I hadn’t bowed to the family pressure to get married”.

“I know for a fact that if I had to relive those days gone by I wish I would have stopped being so afraid and taken more risks with regards to having a career. I could have juggled my time , got out of my comfort zone and held on to the needs of my own as against bowing to the needs of others first”.

“I wish I would have had a home to call my own rather than living with my in laws”.

“I wish I would have I’d trust myself and my talents more”.

“I wish I would have spent more time with my children”.

“I wish my partner understood me and my needs more”.

“I wish I would have looked after my health and endorsed a well regimented exercise program”.

“I wish I would have spent more time with my friends”.

“I wish I hadn’t allowed other people’s fears/ignorance to affect me so deeply that I would blunt my ambitions/dreams to please them”.

“I wish I would have the guts to say no and mean it”.

“I wish I would have taken up formal lessons in Dancing. I think it is the most liberating form of self expression”.

“I wish I would breathe, before I react and understand that I don’t have to have an opinion on everything”.

“I wish I could just pause and see life from a new lens”.

A lot of wisdom and comfort comes with time. Sometimes, the answer is just time — enough time to outlive the struggles in your 20’s and 30’s so that you can develop the mettle to balance the challenges that come in your 50’s and beyond.

There will be many times when you will need more than advice to overcome personal struggles.  “Embrace your age” and love who you are now. It is the key to a happy, healthy and positive aging.

Don’t bother about wanting to turn back the clock. Give yourself the gift of a well-lived life.

Live a simple and healthy life by incorporating a few lifestyle changes and habits.

Don’t forget to do the small often ignored things that will make you content.

You will live as much as been gifted to you. Just live in such a way that each day is a celebration of your life!

-Madhavi

New Beginnings

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“Create the highest grandest vision possible for your life because you become what you believe”- Oprah Winfrey

It’s always difficult to start over. Starting over tends to take on the magnitude of the nearly impossible. We feel that there are just so many different areas of our life that need changing, there’s so much to do, and so much to learn. And yet when it comes to taking that first step towards transformation, we always back down.

But, I always feel that December vibrates on a restorative frequency and we feel more empowered, resilient, and start gearing up for new beginnings and stepping into the magnificent unknown. As we step into the New Year , we begin to make resolutions, to improve the status of our life, to get healthier, to move forward, to get closer to our goals, dreams, and mostly that ‘difficult to sustain’ inner-peace.

A New Year means new beginnings and fresh starts. If you can let go of the past, freeing yourself of failures and disappointments, you can embrace a new perspective—a fresh look at the future and all the wonderful possibilities it holds. Isn’t it great that you get 365 new and exciting days to mark your destiny?

Change is about possibility, about opportunity, of embarking on exciting journeys of discovery.  Now is the time to either dust off those dreams, or create new ones. It’s a fact that goals are constantly evolving. What you believe to be your ultimate goal today will look quite a bit different in the months and years ahead. However, this is a time for creation, so set intentions & believe that you deserve to receive everything you desire & dream of.

Each one of us is being presented with a choice – to stay behind in our own darkness or come forth and embrace the light. We have to let go, a lot of physical and emotional baggage that no longer serves us and work on improving our life and ourselves.

Although it’s true that we must live each day to the best of our ability, we mustn’t let go of every opportunity that comes our way to focus on our goals. The first step towards getting somewhere is to decide you’re not going to stay where you are.

A great idea to consider is to get into the habit of asking yourself every day, ‘Is this supporting my vision of the life I’m trying’?

Close your eyes to the old ends and open your heart to new beginnings.

Forget the past and look towards the future.

New beginnings are chances that the universe gives you not only each year, but each day, every day to create the life you’ve always fantasized of having.

 

PC:Pexel

Reboot.

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Remember when you were a kid and longed for those lazy, hazy days of summer? School vacation hadn’t even started but the fun activities had all been lined up. Summer breaks often meant either a planned holiday to visit the grandparent’s or just spending time with the “besties”. Routines changed. Time was less structured. Life was simpler.

I remember how my best friend and me, used to lie down in the cool grass and look up at the sky, trying to figure out the shapes in the clouds as they passed.

Exercise was never a gym class. It was playing outdoors, swimming in a locality club pool, riding a bike, and exploring the neighbourhood.

The mind could wander and refresh; the body could “train” without a target; and the spirit could soar with new energy.

As kids, we didn’t give much thought, if any, to the health benefits of our summer activities. We just  looked forward to spending time, having fun outdoors. That time was called recreation for a reason.

Summer offered time to “re-create” ourselves so we could take on a new set of challenges in the new school year. For those of you born in the personal computer age (I wasn’t), summer was a time to “reboot.” Today, relatively few children actually go out to play in parks. They are constantly engaged with their electronic devices.

Forget about children even the adults do not disengage from their devices. Nor do they stop anymore to take a break.

But we have to make a conscious effort to save room for personal downtime—ideally without guilt or the nagging sense that more important things remain to be done. Whether you are a man or a woman, child or a student, all at different phases of life, but you do face the emotional pressure leading to stress and depression.

I was shocked to read, that the highly successful Indian actress Deepika Padukone, boldly and confidently accepted that she too had faced depression and if it hadn’t been for her mother who persistently kept checking on her, she would have quit long time back.

But what about those people who seldom have anyone around to recognize this emptiness. For them it’s themselves who have to act as their own hero.We can’t control the things that happen to us, but we surely can control the way we get a grip on them. In today’s world nothing is as important as your own sanity and contentment.

Do what makes YOU happy.

Focus more on the WHAT’S in your life than the  WHAT IF’S.

To sustain stamina, vitality, mental agility, and even a joy for living, we have to periodically disconnect from the daily grind. We have to find that sweet spot—a balance—between work and play, and carving out space on a regular basis to promote it.

Regular healthy doses of enjoyable physical activity, sunshine, creativity, unplugging from devices that tether us to obligations and good old fashioned fun should be indulged in, not only in the summer, but throughout the year!

Until next time—