Count your blessings!!

grateful

A simple, yet profound statement. But the question is Do We?

 The Buddhists have known for years that gratitude has been scientifically proven to strengthen your immune system and make you happier and more optimistic.

Human nature is to want what we don’t have and to dwell on the negatives—instead of celebrating what we do have and focusing on what’s going well.

I am guilty too of the same for a while now. Being a naturally free spirited person, I am uncomfortable with any kind of bondage that traps my mind, body and soul. My soul just starts rejecting it. So it is a battle of wits between what I want and what I have.

But sometimes circumstances in your life bring you to a point where despite your best efforts things are not as happening as you would like them to be.

Of late there have been some situations at home which have been draining me completely of all energy and positivity.  It has left me exhausted and completely in a rotten mood. I am blaming not only the circumstances but also the other people in my life to an extent.

And recently all the pent up frustration was lashed out to my son who was on a long distance phone call.

On the other side he was bearing the brunt of my vile vomit of words. Not saying a word, he listened.

I went on and on for about 15 minutes till he found a pause in my words and then he spoke, as gently and calmly, as he naturally is.

His words not honey coated but real. Understanding me and making me understand.

Once the poison left my body I apologized to him, for bearing with an overly emotional mother and for saying things to him which he wasn’t even responsible for.

“I am so so sorry” I texted, again and again.

And he texted back, “its better the poison was thrown towards me, rather than anyone else, I know it wasn’t meant for me so it did not affect me, but I am glad it is out of your system”.

And every day, after that dreadful conversation, looking back, I wonder how your children suddenly become so mature enough that they take on the role of your protector.

And then you have your entire life pass by before your eyes, and all the teachings, and life lessons you taught your kids come back to you in multitude ways.

You are in awe of the universe and grateful to have such blessed souls around you to take care of you and remind you of things which you may have forgotten but they remember.

My point here is this. It can be easy to get swept away in the fast lane and forget to stop and show your appreciation for what you do have.

Gratitude doesn’t have to be saved for the “big” things in life. Being grateful everyday for waking up healthy, for having food on the table and clean home and clothes on your back is equally important. Gratitude is your partner understanding your moods.

Gratitude is not only about being thankful for positive experiences. In fact, sometimes thinking about negative or difficult situations can help to really nail down what you have to be thankful for.

Gratitude is being very very thankful for those handful people in your life who find it a blessing to have you in theirs.

Gratitude is to give back to others what they lack. Volunteering for the purpose of helping others increases our own well-being, and thus our ability to have more gratitude.

With so many bad things happening around the world, if you can find just one moment in your life that you are grateful about, then enjoy it and…….

Count your blessings!

 

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Madhavi

 

 

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Wrinkles

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Let no one deprive me of the wrinkles of my forehead.

Or the bags under my eyes.

It is the memory of the days,

Of how much I worried and cried.

Oh those tiny lines near my lips,

Show how much I laughed and how much I kissed.

The smile on my mouth,

Hides the words I didn’t say.

And the pain in my eyes,

Shadow the hurt that lies there.

These lines and these scars are mine.

And they make me beautiful.

They tell stories of,

All the hurt and the pain,

Of all the love and the gain,

Of all my victories and defeats,

And most of all,

These wrinkles …well they show you,

They show you the real me.

 

Be Flawsome

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Isn’t it strange that when we look at photos of people enjoying themselves we think their life is all glossy and absolutely frikkin perfect.

We are so busy enviously looking at the shiny exteriors that, we couldn’t believe, if told  that their lives are filled with dark clouds. That they could be drowning in an abyss of deep depression and a feeling of abandonment.

Betrayal, instability, emotional abuse, loss and so many more issues that people tend to cover up with their most radiant smiles to avoid being questioned. A lot of us are uncomfortable to even hear about depression especially from someone who we think has it all. But the best of us, the rich, the famous, the successful, have faced issues of depression at one time or another.

I myself have been through rough patches. There are so many days when I feel lost, anxious,stressed ,alone, heartbroken and depressed. Nothing in particular brings about this sense of misery, but on some days everything around me is infuriating. I feel my life is going nowhere. There is a sense of disillusionment of having achieved nothing so to say. Most of my 30 years or so have been spent looking after my kids and the elderly at home. Although for about 6-7 years in between I was employed full time, and needless to say those were absolutely the best days in my life so far.

Today I feel that I haven’t accomplished much for myself. I know I could have achieved so much more. And that helplessness, that pain of underachievement and a demon in my head constantly reminding me of being a disappointment just eats me up from within.

And however much I try to focus on the good and the positives the pain eventually catches up. I am not completely unfortunate but neither am I contented with the way things have unfolded in my life.

And so this post is for all of you like me , who have and are struggling to keep your head above the water and have tried way too hard to keep darkness at bay.

It’s for those who have missed countless opportunities and adventures, and lost many friendships.

Remember you are not Alone.

You are a tough fighter and a brave survivor. You are human and you are supposed to make mistakes.

Please hang in there. Life is beautiful, and it has to be enjoyed every moment

Find the smallest thing each day that will bring a smile on your face. Just because you are struggling it doesn’t mean you are a failure. Some flowers take very long to bloom. And it’s absolutely fine to feel pain. It makes you so much more human.

Use this pain to help somebody who needs help. Use this experience to reach out to those who are afraid and shy to speak up.

Listen to those who do not speak about their problems.

A kind word,

A helpful gesture,

A loving heart,

That’s all it takes to be someone’s pillar of strength.

And most importantly DO NOT FORGET TO LOVE YOURSELF. You are GOD’S BEST CREATION.