Healing

healing

Once the storm is over, you won’t remember how you made it through, how you managed to survive. You won’t even be sure, whether the storm is really over. But one thing is certain. When you come out of the storm, you won’t be the same person who walked in. That’s what this storm’s all about.” — Haruki Murakami

The answer to life’s many questions are really plain and simple.

Throughout our lifetime we are faced with circumstances and situations that take a toll on our mental, physical and spiritual selves.  It’s an accepted fact of being part of the life chain. Along with happiness and fun, sadness and pain are always on the flip side.

Some wounds or should I say some of the pain we feel, both physical and mental, take a lot of time to heal. But heal they do. Eventually!

But for us to allow that healing to take place, requires us to uncover our subconscious wounds, face our inner demons, and meet our pain head on. It requires us to break over and over again until we settle into wholeness.

But Time is the biggest healer, isn’t it? Every wound, every pain will fully heal only when we accept it in its entirety and allow it to scar us, look at it right into their eyes, face it, and resolve it.

The pain will take you back into time. You will relive each forgotten memory, through isolation, despair, desperation, powerlessness and anxiety. Until, you realize that you can’t run away from it. They become a part of you.

My own life path has been quite dark. I have had to face many of the aspects that I would never have chosen to see.

Right from the days in my teens of losing both my parents within a span of two years, to last week when we lost the matriarch of the husband’s side of family.

I have spent almost close to three decades being a solid support and companion of my mother in law, when last week she breathed her last peacefully.

Suddenly when everyone of her children and relatives leave for their respective homes, after the mandatory 12 day period of mourning is over, I will find a huge void in my time.

I will have to prioritize my own needs and claim my life back. There are so many issues which need addressing. I hope I can overcome the bad tides and look forward to new beginnings and new blessings.

The path to healing is never easy. But I know it will be worth the effort and worth the wait.

Acceptance and trusting in the Divine with utmost faith will pave the way for new blessings, abundance of love and healing to enter the soul and life.

-madhavi

 

 

Was it a coincidence? I think not.

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Nothing in what happens in your life is a coincidence.

Everything is predetermined and preordained by the creator. Two incidents in the past few days have reinforced my belief that coincidences are merely what you attract in your life at that particular time.

Good things, bad things…whatever it may be, it’s all happening the way it should be unfolded.

Life’s lessons are usually learnt in some uncomfortable circumstances. The lessons that teach you to either let go or have more faith.

Let’s go a little back here to emphasise the point I am getting at. Sometimes life’s responsibilities drag you into a whirlpool of immense work and you have less choice but to face that task alone. And those responsibilities bring with them a tsunami of intense emotions that take over your logical mind completely and leave you vulnerable and naked to negativity.

While I am a stay at home caretaker to an aged parent, I sometimes feel the need to take a breather from the stress of daily duties and just unwind. Some days that is possible, but when a long period of time goes by, the things at hand go so out of control that I am on the verge of losing my mind.

I do have house help, to handle the daily requirements, but there is no one around most of the time to have a decent conversation with.

I do have friends but then they too have their own issues to deal with and we can’t seem to find a common time to meet up to just enjoy each other’s company. I mean how much can one talk on the phone? My mind yearns to have conversations which ‘feed my soul’. Or just meet people who can change my perspective on things without sounding condescending.

Sometimes on weekends when the man of the house is in to share in his bit, I do like to go off to the parlour and self indulge in a little pampering. So about 2 weeks back as I was about to go for one of my ‘perk me up’ sessions I sent a silent prayer to the universe to please let me meet someone who I can have a normal and regular chit chat with. And guess what!

She came! Right there in the parlour.

I had never seen or met her before. I do not know who she was. But we just connected, and got talking, about random things, about poetry, about religion, about soul mates and twin flames.

There was no awkwardness. Our energies were synchronising together and the conversation just started flowing like a meandering river. The time just flew by. We spend nearly two hours talking.

It was the most liberating soul nourishing experience I have had after a long time. Suddenly all the stress and tension in my body seemed to evaporate.

Let me narrate another incident if this isn’t enough to satisfy your curiosity. I was in tatters and tears a couple of days back. Life felt like a huge burden I could not carry anymore. Although I am usually very strong about the upheavals in my life and take it in stride, but that day was I like walking on fire with my eyes open. I had had enough.

There are times when family can never understand what you are going through. And at times like these you turn to the one you feel most comfortable with, a friend or a colleague, or even a guru or mentor, to vent out your insecurities and your negativity.

And out of the blue without thinking much, I just decided to vent out my feelings to a dear friend. He has a very positive and calming influence on my mind.  He gives me the silent non judgmental, but at the same time an understated and tremendous support which is invaluable for me. He can read my mind. He is like a punching bag for me. I can just spew on a lot of things on him and he never complains about me nagging him. He quietly listens.

He just read the text full of negativity and ranting and texted back ‘what time can I speak to you? That’s it. That’s all I wanted to hear I guess. That he was around. That I wasn’t alone.

I knew he listened and understood what was happening. Sometimes that’s all you ever need. For someone to listen and not give you strong words of advice.

So anyway, I did not want to talk to him as then it would have me crying bucketfuls in front of him and that is something I definitely did not want to do. I cannot do that. No matter what shit I am going through I just cannot cry in front of anyone. It’s just not me.

Anyway what I am coming to is that he had changed his profile pic a few minutes back. And it was no coincidence that it had to happen at such a crucifying time for me. After I sent him my message I just opened his pic and was looking at it for a long time. It was like he was near me, his eyes urging me to hold on and be strong.

It was as if the universe was looking out for me, because suddenly my mood shifted. I became calm. There was no anxiety or bitterness left in my heart anymore.

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Were these two incidents just a mere coincidence? I think not. And if it was, then I would say that such meaningful coincidences help get us to places we need to be without knowing how we got there.

You may call it Fate or Mystery, or the Universe or God, but it’s about all the things happening to us or falling into place or coming together in a surprising, unexpected way without an obvious explanation. As you begin to accept it as synchronicity it drastically changes your life.

Everything that happens is predetermined and will be revealed to us when our soul is ready to accept the change. Synchronicity is like a mirror – whatever you believe in and manifest for yourself, it will reflect back to you. You just have to believe in it.

It is for a reason that your spirit guides never fails to tell you to be positive and not let the negative take on your senses and bog you down.

The Chance meeting with that woman or the picture of my friend changing at that precise moment was not a coincidence. It was written in my soul plan. The Universe was merely reflecting back to me what I was attracting at that moment. Such incidents are rarely an accident. Sometimes I agree things are not in our control but our realities are largely the result of our unconscious wants and the energies that manifest within.

The point is that everything you attract into your life – every person, every object, and every experience –has all been drawn into your reality by none other than YOU

 

Think about this!!

madhavi

 

 

Colours to wear according to weekdays

vibgyorMany cultures believe that there are colors associated with each day of the week. For example, in India, astrologers as well as Ayurvedic practitioners associate a color with each day. All these cultures believe that each day of the week is associated either with a planet or with a deity. So it makes sense to attach a day with a color.

Colors of the week as per Hindu traditions

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Here are colors of the week according to Hindu traditions.

  • Sunday– Hindus believe it is auspicious to wear Red on Sunday. People also offer red flowers to Surya or the Sun God.
  • Monday– Lord Shiva is the deity associated with this day of the week so people often wear White, since Monday is also associated with the Moon and colors linked to it are silver, light gray or blue.
  • Tuesday– In Hindu culture, this day is associated with Lord Hanuman and people who fast and pray to this Lord wear Red. The day is also linked with Mars-the angry planet-which can be appeased by wearing this colour.
  • Wednesday– Green is the color of the day for Wednesday. Wednesday is associated with Lord Budha (not Buddha) which is the deity linked with Jupiter.
  • Thursday– People wear Orange or Yellow on this day. As per Hindu culture, this day is the day of Lord Vishnu who is known to wear Yellow.
  • Friday– Friday color is Blue (Sea green or aquamarine are also acceptable). The day is also associated with Goddess Shakti.
  • Saturday-Wear the color of the royalty-Purple though you can also wear black, indigo, mauve or dark grey, all of which are associated with wrath of Shani (Saturn). People in Indian villages also visit Shani shrines and make offerings of black oil, black sesame seeds and donate black clothes.

 

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Navratri celebrated to honour the 9 incarnations of Goddess Durga, is one of the major festivals observed in India.  This festival has a lot of customs and rituals which are associated with it. One of them is wearing different-coloured clothes on all the nine days 

Navratri Day 1

This day is dedicated to honouring the Shailputri avatar of Goddess Durga and the colour of this day is grey. Wearing this colour will connect you to the divine power and provide God’s protection.

Navratri Day 2

The second day is dedicated to Goddess Brahmcharini, who is known for her calm energy and granting the way to ‘Moksha’. The colour of the day is orange, which depicts the name, fame and money.

Navratri Day 3

This day is dedicated to the worshipping of Goddess Chandraghanta. The Goddess is worshipped for granting peace and prosperity. The colour of third day is white.

Navratri Day 4

The colour of the day is red, which reflects passion and power. It is also known to be Goddess’s favourite colour. Devotees worship Goddess Kushmunda on the fourth day.

Navratri Day 5

Day 5 is dedicated to honouring Goddess Skand Mata, who is the 5th avatar of Goddess Durga. The colour of the day is sky blue, representing faith and spiritual awareness.

Navratri day 6

Goddess Katyayani is worshipped on the 6th day of Navratri. She is the 6th manifestation of Maa Durga. She is known to be the destroyer the evil forces. On this day, pink colour is worn by the devotees, which symbolizes hope and new beginnings.

Navratri day 7

The 7th day of Navratri is dedicated to Maa Kaalratri, who is considered to be the most fierce form of Goddess Durga. She is known to provide power and calmness to her devotees. The colour of the day is royal blue.

Navratri day 8

Maa Mahagauri is the Goddess, who is worshipped on the 8th day of Navratri. The colour of the day is yellow which signifies happiness and positivity in life. The 8th day is also celebrated as ‘Ashtami’.

Navratri day 9

On the 9th and final day of Navratri, Goddess Siddhidatri is worshipped, who is considered to be the possessor of 26 different wishes. The colour of the last day is green, which symbolizes prosperity.

 

Stay blessed

madhavi

Christmas Candles

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The word “Advent” is derived from the Latin word adventus, meaning “coming,” which is a translation of the Greek word parousia. Advent is a time of expectation and hope. “Advent” means “arrival” or “coming”.

The season of Advent lasts for four Sundays leading up to Christmas. The most common Advent tradition is the decoration of the wreathes and the candles.

The Advent wreath was created out of evergreens, symbolizing everlasting life in the midst of winter and death. The circle reminds us of God’s unending love and the eternal life. Advent candles are often nestled in the evergreen wreath. Families begin lighting a candle on the fourth Sunday before Christmas, and they light another candle each subsequent Sunday.

Each candle represents something different, although traditions vary.

Occasionally, a fifth white candle is placed in the middle and is lit on Christmas Day to celebrate Jesus’ birth.

 

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The first candle symbolizes hope and is called the “Prophet’s Candle.” The prophets of the Old Testament, especially Isaiah, waited in hope for the Messiah’s arrival.

The second candle represents faith and is called “Bethlehem’s Candle.” Micah had foretold that the Messiah would be born in Bethlehem, which is also the birthplace of King David.

The third candle symbolizes joy and is called the “Shepherd’s Candle.” To the shepherd’s great joy, the angels announced that Jesus came for humble, unimportant people like them, too. In liturgy, the color rose signifies joy.

The fourth candle represents peace and is called the “Angel’s Candle.” The angels announced that Jesus came to bring peace–He came to bring people close to God and to each other again.

The (optional) fifth candle represents light and purity and is called “Christ’s Candle.” It is placed in the middle and is lit on Christmas Day

Christmas is not only the happiest time on the planet, to rejoice, but it is also a time to reflect.

Amidst all the celebrations, decorations and feasting, let’s take moment and ponder on the life we have lived for the past 12 months.

While we light up our houses with twinkling fairy lights, candles and lanterns, let us remember not only the birth of Christ, but also the goodness of humanity around us. Let us spend sometime today to sit in meditative silence and light a few candles within our hearts.

Light the First Candle and let it burn your anger and / or jealousy that you may have for any one till date; and slowly visualise it melt away…

Light the Second Candle and let it burn away unwanted greed and desires… Feel happy and contented with all that you have been blessed with.

Light the Third Candle and let it fade away all insecurities that you may have in your mind related to your finances, your job, or your future. Just believe that if   God has presented you with a life then he will surely give you enough to survive.

Light the Fourth Candle and carry the flame of that candle to each part of your body, letting it burn away all your diseased cells or any disease in making. Feel healthy as this flame travels to each body part and illuminates each organ.

The Fifth Candle is a replica of a miniature Sun… the divine light… visualize the rays of the sun in the centre of your body and let it fill the warmth and love engulfing your whole body…feel one with the Divine… let the love and warmth filled inside you radiate through your smile, your eyes, and your speech.

Wishing you all a very Merry and Happy Christmas.

God bless !

madhavi