Live your life in ‘Awe’

awe life

Have you ever wondered about your life and the direction it’s headed? Do you find yourself wondering how to make your life less mundane and more meaningful? Do you find the popular notion that ‘meaning’ is mysterious and hard, and it feels big and scary?  Yeah, right?

So what does this ‘meaningful life’ look like to you?

Do you picture wise sages cloistered in remote caves meditating on the deepest questions of the universe, or larger than life crusaders changing the world with their heroic acts of will.

It’s no wonder that so many of us worry that perhaps our smaller scale lives don’t measure up to a ‘meaningful life’. And to top it off it seems like every self-help blog harps on the idea of finding ones purpose. Without it, life seems pretty meaningless.

When you were younger you enjoyed the freedom to have a lot more fun. You enjoyed your work life and found time to enjoy with your friends. Agreed, that fewer responsibilities earlier allowed you to make the most of your time and your life. Nobody in their youth ever gave much thought to this pertinent question on the meaningfulness of life.

But as you matured, the responsibilities also took on a whole new level; not only are you looking after your children but some of you are also faced with the additional responsibility of taking care of your aged parents who are now unable to take care of themselves. This makes it rather impossible for you to take time off at will and enjoy your life to the fullest, like you did when you were younger.

But come to think of it rationally, isn’t whatever you are doing everyday valuable to someone? Whether it is for your children or for your parents? Don’t you feel a sense of accomplishment and satisfaction at the end of the day when you retire for bed, as you see your family completely at ease and contented?

It is the values that you have imbibed from the previous generation, the values of Authenticity, Dependability, Integrity, Selflessness and Reliability that make your life exceptionally priceless and meaningful.

Don’t forget to recognize the fact that your life is already way more meaningful than you give yourself credit for. Rather than focus on the questions to live a more meaningful life, you should stop and reflect to recognize the many moments that already give you a sense of direction and accomplishment.

Simply having a lot to do around the home while you are a stay-at-home parent such as indulging in some hobby to tap on your creativity can keep you and your mind busy. Occasionally, meeting old friends or even chatting with neighbours can cause people to feel their lives are much more meaningful.

Sitting in nature and enjoying the beauty of the trees changing colour, watching flowers of different hues or even people-watching can relieve the stress of the day to day life and boosts peoples’ sense of meaning.

Stop trying to find yourself. Life itself is trying to teach you something.

The meaning of life is to find the moments of awe.

What is awe, you ask?

It’s the pauses you take between sentences. It’s the moments of silence when you’re watching the rain outside. It’s the moments where you breathe. It’s the moments where you can be human.

When life get too overpowering and you feel lost, all you have to do is stand still, watch and listen to the world around you. There is awe everywhere.

Awe is the spark you feel when you meet a lover.

Awe is the conversation between long lost friends.

Awe is holding your newborn baby.

Awe is the piping hot food on your table after a hard days’ work.

Awe is the feeling of restfulness after a good nights’ sleep.

Awe is your dog wagging his tail when you return from work.

Awe is the exhilaration of screaming “Yes!!” after you’ve completed a challenging task.

Awe is looking out at nature and cherishing its raw beauty.

Awe is being grateful.

Awe is whatever you want it to be.

So if you frequently fret about the meaning of your life, rather than worry about finding a grand purpose, spend some time to look for the moments of ‘awe’ that already exist all around you. Simply noticing them is all you need for a much greater sense of meaning.

Life does give you many moments to be and more importantly feel beautiful.

madhavi:)

 

Live +ve

positive

 

Many a times we feel as if we are living life in a rut. We continue doing the same things over and over again monotonously, with no respite from them, and without realizing that they are taking a toll on our mental well-being.

Often we merely manage to stay afloat in spite of the numerous hurdles just because duty calls for it. It takes a lot of nerve to stay reasonably sane. You then resort to drinking and smoking to drown out the unanswered prayers, or begin to party hard just to pretend that everything is going well.

Life sucks even more when you go online and see so many people portraying that they are having a blast.

However having a confidante or a friend who will listen to your sob stories without judging you does help. You value that at least they know where you stand. They don’t disapprove of you or try to offer a carrot stick, but genuinely understand your woes and offer you not only a shoulder to cry on but also give solutions to make your life bearable. They send you motivation morning messages everyday on WhatsApp just so that you can live through another day with a smile on your face. It does have a reassuring effect on your psyche to see that caring friends have your back, but after a few days, the gloom creeps back on you and its back to square one.

But think about it …By adopting a positive mindset, our resilience does increase along with our capacity to explore the world, while feeling confident and secure. Negative thoughts and emotions, on the other hand, can skew our perspective and in the long-term, damage our self-esteem.

It’s said that you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with. There is an inherent truth to that, as we, as social creatures, pick up on the habits, behaviors, and attitudes of those around us. What that means is that if you want the strength and positivity to get through anything, you must keep your circle of friends and associates as healthy as you can. Wherever possible, and in situations such as work where you may not have control, you must learn how to practice positivity so its spreads to those around you.

Much of what we see in the world is a reflection of how we feel inside. The brain is literally creating your experience moment to moment. This means that your prefrontal cortex, which deals with your thoughts, is relaying information to your mammalian cortex, which handles emotions. These emotions then go on to inform deeper and older parts of the brain, including sensory experience and pain. This means that when we say a positive attitude can recreate your reality, it’s not just a metaphor, it’s a physiological fact!

Gratitude is a key tenet in all major philosophies, religions, and schools of thought, because gratitude is a foundation of positive thinking. When you are able to be appreciative of what you have, your brain is unable to give life and energy to thoughts about what you don’t have. Seeing events in your life as gifts allow you to perceive how they may help you grow and become a better person, and the application of this attitude during tough times is the hallmark of resilience.

Because positivity is so infectious, it naturally becomes a quality that other people want in their lives. Positivity is an extremely attractive personality trait, and it becomes an inspiration for everyone else. Writing, meditation, affirmations, and integrating more play into your life are all ways that you can rewire your brain to be more focused on the positive aspects of your experience.

And when it gets too much for you to bear, look up positive quotes, poems, articles, etc to help you tide over the misery. There’s a cliché in the personal development world that can be polarizing. Some people shy away from Positive Thinking, believing it to be cheap or tacky, while others swear by it as if it was some sort of magic pill.

And often one of the best ways to get into the habit of thinking positively is to peak into the minds of other positive people’s quotes by reading what they’ve said or written. Although our lives are filled with unexpected challenges, and some of us will have a more difficult time than others, I do hope these quotes about positivity will help you get through anything.

Sharing below some of the quotes which are my personal favorites.

 

  •  “Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down.”- Oprah Winfrey

 

  • “Keep your face to the sunshine and you cannot see a shadow.”-Helen Keller

 

  • “Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.”- Lucille Ball

 

  • “Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”-Rumi

 

  •  “The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step.” -Lao Tzu

 

  • “You must be the change you wish to see in the world.” –Gandhi

 

  • “Tough times never last, but tough people do.”-Dr. Robert Schuller

 

  • “There is only one success: to be able to spend your life in your own way.” -Christopher Morley

 

  • “The best way out is always through.”-Robert Frost

 

  • “Once you choose hope, anything’s possible.”-Christopher Reeve

 

  • “Don’t wait. The time will never be just right.”-Napoleon Hill

 

  • “The only place where your dreams become impossible is in your own thinking,”- Robert H Schuller

 

  •  “We become what we think about.”- Early Nightingale

 

  •  “Surround yourself with the dreamers, and the doers, the believers, and thinkers, but most of all, surround yourself with those who see the greatness within you, even when you don’t see it yourself.”-Edmund Lee

 

 

Sending you much love and hope !!

madhavi 🙂