Embrace the change

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It’s been a long time, hasn’t it?

A long time since you socialised with your friends.
A long time since you went back to work.
A long time since those coffee breaks and quick drinks.
A long time since you went on that drive.
A long time since you met your love.
A long time since you went on dates.
A long time since you exchanged hugs and kisses.
A long time since you walked the streets and caught the eye of a stranger.
A long time since you had a stroll in the parks.
A long time since you were in the midst of a commotion.
A long time has passed, and so much has changed.
Days, weeks and months flew by, and you are somewhat different now.

You have…….
A sense of comfort in your own solitude.
A sense of strength in your solidarity.
A sense of tranquility in your mind.
A sense of being connected in all this separation.
A sense of purpose.
You have changed, my god you have.
Don’t let anyone take this away from you.
Don’t be forced to shift back to what you used to be.

You have found so much in this space.
Take your time.
You still might be healing.
You still might be on the way to finding your sense of self.
Remember this and remember well.
You have changed, and it’s a good thing.

Cherish it. Celebrate it. Enhance it. .

 

-Madhavi

 

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The Earth is Healing. ALLOW IT!

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This pandemic we are in the midst of is not just a disease , it’s a wake-up call for all the other issues as well ,such as climate change, environment degradation, population explosion,  shrinking resources,  declining in animal species, rain forests, marine life, fresh water and many more which we have been pushing under the carpet for decades.

So it’s hardly shocking today how a pandemic can threaten seemingly unbreakable social norms and habits and bring us down to our knees.

The fact is we all love to be in control. We fancy ourselves to be captains of our destiny, and masters of our fate.

The reality is that today, more than ever before this sense of control is an illusion, a bubble that the Corona virus has popped. We are gripped by fear and we are bloody well panicking.

It’s so easy for us to lose perspective in the midst of the madness of our daily lives and our projects, works, wish lists, homes and holidays. We struggle to distinguish the important from the urgent.

So this crisis is showing us what’s really important in our lives and what’s not. It’s helping us to distinguish between what’s meaningful and what’s meaningless.

This is not the first time we are faced with a pandemic this size. There have been plagues earlier too. And millions died even then. But back then our predecessors were not inundated by the ferocity of media reports and information didn’t spread as quickly as the disease so people were not aware of what was killing them.

In short this global pandemic and crisis is again a grim reminder of how weak and frail we are, as human beings. It’s a reminder that diseases have no “made in” stamp and is free to travel without any border control.

In the eyes of the world, we may be different; but in the eyes of the virus, we’re just the same-weak and without answers.

We have a very narrow vision when it comes to visualizing our future. All we can see is the ‘now’.

What we are unable to see is how much damage to the environment we have already caused in our greed to wanting more, being more, doing more. We have destroyed the environment faster than it can recover.

Of course the environment has the capacity to heal itself in many ways. The rate of recovery depends on the type of damage being done. Endangered Species can recover in a few decades; Ozone, in a century; Old growth forests in several centuries; the cooling of radioactive waste, maybe hundreds of thousands of years.

But here is a critical point: the environment cannot recover while we are still increasing the damage to it.

We had to learn the hard way that establishing a sustainable planet is imperative. Either we establish it ourselves, or nature will do it for us – and we can be sure that nature will not be as kind to ourselves as we are. And Mother Nature has now taken things in her own hands after being treated so unkindly for so long.

Nature is neither sentimental nor nostalgic. But it is more resilient, resourceful and creative than we appreciate.

And unfortunately we forget that nature did pretty well for the three billion years before we turned up, and it could do pretty well again if we learned to interfere less.

Mother Earth, when left to her own devices, has the instinct to heal and in fact, heals herself.  If only we let it.

-Madhavi

 

 

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Lean on to the good stuff & Look at the bright side.

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Foreseers and Scientists have been cautioning us for decades about how abusing the planet will affect us. People from Australia to California, Puerto Rico, and everywhere that flood and fire has broken out, have learned how the climate change will eventually lead to doomsday.  They warned us that planets do get sick too over a few decades, not a few weeks –although slightly slower than populations do.

And, I think, now covid-19 is a reminder that although we seem to think we have a great deal of control over most things that thought literally just flies out of the window, when you realize that you don’t actually. Things can go very, very wrong, and very, very quickly.

Nobody expected the novel Corona virus to flare up this way. What started off in a “wet market” in Wuhan, is killing many people, and shutting millions more inside, with fear as their main companion.

The main thing about a pandemic like this is that it doesn’t discriminate. Whoever you are, wherever you live, you’re vulnerable. While some of us may fare better because of our age or health, the germs themselves are impartial. This means, we are all in the same boat, for better or worse.

And so is the universality of suffering. The virus is an extraordinary event, and the horror it unleashes is extraordinary, too. But suffering is anything but extraordinary. All of us are hostages to forces over which we have no control.

This is not our first test as a species and it won’t be our last. A pandemic like this simply forces us to think about our responsibilities to the people around us. The simplest and probably the most important thing you can do to control the spread of this virus is to take precautions like social distancing. That’s the only way to flatten the epidemic curve, and by doing so will literally save lives.

The cost of this pandemic will be not just financial. What comes next is unclear. And the pain will not be distributed equally. Many people will lose income due to work stoppages or potential lockdowns.

Kids from low-income families will miss meals if schools are cancelled; parents  will miss work if they have to stay home to take care of them; Students in universities are already having nightmares about their future; If companies start laying off workers or give pay cuts the economics of running a household  will become burdensome to so many families .

And the list goes on and on.

But let us not buy into the hysteria of a virus fear. Let us stay strong. We live on a planet where viruses and bacteria are everywhere. Let’s face it fearlessly.

And if we’re fated to go through this passage, we may as well learn something from it.

We are being reminded to keeping loved ones close and that our health is the ultimate abundance. And even though we may feel alone we are actually together in this.

We are being reminded that it is better to live a life with minimum needs and not burden ourselves, our homes, our countries and more importantly our planet, with any more than is absolutely necessary for our survival.

It is teaching us that our villages, towns, cities need not be over-populated, over constructed and over burdened.

It is teaching us to respect the food chain in our ecosystem.

Maybe it is the year of truth, a year of change, a year of the new world. Maybe our planet and the entire human race is going through evolution and changes at the energy levels.

Maybe this disaster is giving us an opportunity to heal and rebuild the planet itself from scratch.

Let us heal our own karma, by putting aside greed, and only thinking of one self. Let us focus on the wellness and well being of each individual, each plant, each species, and each life-form on this planet.

Let us raise our positive vibes together. Let our energy, our vision, our words, and our thoughts, shape how we want our tomorrow to be.

This might also be the moment when we decide to fully embrace the idea that what happens elsewhere matters that there’s no real way to shut out the rest of the planet. That’s true for the virus, which seems to have seeped through most of the world’s borders in a matter of days.

In order for substantive progress to take place humanity needs to operate from a point of solidarity, empathy, equity, and moral clarity.

And also, what we need to understand is the meaning of the Native American proverb, “We do not inherit the earth from our ancestors; we borrow it from our children.”

So let’s take care of each other, our planet and its resources and understand that each sunrise offers us a wonderful new opportunity to make the world a better place for you and me.

-Madhavi

 

OS:The Guardian

Healing

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Once the storm is over, you won’t remember how you made it through, how you managed to survive. You won’t even be sure, whether the storm is really over. But one thing is certain. When you come out of the storm, you won’t be the same person who walked in. That’s what this storm’s all about.” — Haruki Murakami

The answer to life’s many questions are really plain and simple.

Throughout our lifetime we are faced with circumstances and situations that take a toll on our mental, physical and spiritual selves.  It’s an accepted fact of being part of the life chain. Along with happiness and fun, sadness and pain are always on the flip side.

Some wounds or should I say some of the pain we feel, both physical and mental, take a lot of time to heal. But heal they do. Eventually!

But for us to allow that healing to take place, requires us to uncover our subconscious wounds, face our inner demons, and meet our pain head on. It requires us to break over and over again until we settle into wholeness.

But Time is the biggest healer, isn’t it? Every wound, every pain will fully heal only when we accept it in its entirety and allow it to scar us, look at it right into their eyes, face it, and resolve it.

The pain will take you back into time. You will relive each forgotten memory, through isolation, despair, desperation, powerlessness and anxiety. Until, you realize that you can’t run away from it. They become a part of you.

My own life path has been quite dark. I have had to face many of the aspects that I would never have chosen to see.

Right from the days in my teens of losing both my parents within a span of two years, to last week when we lost the matriarch of the husband’s side of family.

I have spent almost close to three decades being a solid support and companion of my mother in law, when last week she breathed her last peacefully.

Suddenly when everyone of her children and relatives leave for their respective homes, after the mandatory 12 day period of mourning is over, I will find a huge void in my time.

I will have to prioritize my own needs and claim my life back. There are so many issues which need addressing. I hope I can overcome the bad tides and look forward to new beginnings and new blessings.

The path to healing is never easy. But I know it will be worth the effort and worth the wait.

Acceptance and trusting in the Divine with utmost faith will pave the way for new blessings, abundance of love and healing to enter the soul and life.

-madhavi

 

 

Red Lipstick

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Red Lipstick of little hope –  A good write up by  Twinkle Khanna

My grandmother is 77. She has perfectly coloured hair with not a root in sight, her nails artfully manicured and her clothes always immaculate. I tease her about her interest in all these superficial things and she exclaims that I, in my dal-stained jeans, have always been a total disgrace to the family. Every Friday, she goes for her prayers in the prettiest cotton saris with a string of pearls around her neck.

What is so extraordinary about her story, you may wonder?

She is a woman who has seen three out of her four children die before her very eyes.
Sometimes I think the tiny joy she gets from her little indulgences is what keeps her going and distracts her from the anguish she must have gone through seeing what she has.

My childhood friends – two lovely sisters – lost their mother a few years ago. When I went for the prayer meeting, I was slightly taken aback to see them wearing a lot of makeup. I would have judged them as very shallow if I had not been close to their family and knew how much they had loved their mother and how devastated they were at her demise. Maybe this was their way of getting through this terrible day, maybe they needed a mask to keep everything together, maybe their mom who I had never seen without a large bright bindi on her forehead, would be the only one who understood

My friend recently separated from her husband. She now lives alone with her young daughter, goes to the gym every single day and is looking like a million bucks. Her wardrobe has changed dramatically from kurtas to pretty dresses. Every once in a while, we catch up for coffee and each time I see her, she seems to look leaner, fitter and happier.

I go to visit a family friend in the hospital. She has been dealing with cancer for a while now and though she is lucky to have tremendous family support, only she knows what it is like to deal with fear and pain on a daily basis. She is sitting in her hospital bed in her pajamas, with a turban jauntily perched on her head. And on her lips, she is wearing the brightest, happiest red lipstick. When I ask her about it, she says that whenever she feels low and run down, she puts on her lipstick and it just cheers her up tremendously.

A pretty dress, a new haircut, a string of pearls are all trivial material things that should not matter because they have nothing to do with our inner self, but we forget that our physical form is strongly connected to our identity. It is how we interact with the world around us.

When my family friend puts on her red lipstick, she is telling the world that she still has HOPE.

There is no one of us who doesn’t experience problems in life…Never allow them to drag you down….Sometimes, the only thing you have left is HOPE.

Hope that every tomorrow of yours is more special than yesterday..

On that note …Put on the Red Lipstick. Adjust the crown on your head and Face the world!!

Madhavi    Related image

 

 

 

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Music makes everything better.

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They say music washes away the dust from a weary soul.

Have you ever turned to music to release stress? Whether it was listening to sad songs when you were feeling down or upbeat songs when you were feeling happy, music actually soothes your soul.

We use music for entertainment, expression, celebration, ceremony, leisure, and communication. Whether we are musically inclined or not, it is most likely the one thing that truly connects all humans from all cultures, creeds, and corners of the earth.

We play music at our weddings to celebrate love, and at funerals to say goodbye. We listen when we are bored, and dance to it when we want to have fun. We sing praises and worship our deities with it.

And sometimes, we also use music for healing. Music therapy is a recognized and accepted form of therapy.

Healing with sound dates back as far as ancient Greece.

Apollo was the god of both music and medicine (a strange, but viable combination).

Aesculapius was believed to cure mental disorders with songs.

The philosophers Plato and Aristotle both claimed that music affected the soul and the emotions.

Hippocrates played music for his patients, too.

In biblical times, instruments were used to vanquish evil spirits from human souls. Instances of sound healing therapy are limitless. Yet, it remains misunderstood.

And it has been proven that listening to music makes us more productive and creative; it can relieve tension and, depending on the sort of music, can improve our moods. This is because listening to music floods our brains with dopamine — the happy chemical. It also releases Oxycontin, a natural painkiller and hormone that allow us to bond with and trust people. Music stimulates so many parts of the brain as well as the emotions it can actually lower your blood pressure and heart rate

Music is powerful. It can change our brains, and so it changes our bodies.

Everyone has different taste when it comes to music, whatever is your preference, listen to it more. It can only help and heal you while you face the tough times we all eventually go through.

Humming, singing, chanting as you meditate, saying certain mantras or prayers, or even if you have an instrument you love to play, whenever  you are in need of a boost or a moment of relaxation, use music to your benefit.

Certain tools like singing bowls or wind chimes might be the most magical of all the sound therapy tools. Who of us is not amazed by the sound of them? Wind chimes might simply garden ornaments or decorations to most of us, but they go far back in time to India, China, and even Ancient Rome. Both are said to harmonize and maximize the flow of our “Chi” or life force. Since they require the natural element of air to sound them, they are also said to carry elemental power.

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Healing with sound is a vast subject that still requires much research to be fully understood.

Next time you need a “pick me up,” a boost, or even a vent, put your favourite playlist on. You will notice the change in your mood instantly.

But whatever the reason you listen to music, I hope it makes your heart sing.