Red Lipstick

red lipstick

Red Lipstick of little hope –  A good write up by  Twinkle Khanna

My grandmother is 77. She has perfectly coloured hair with not a root in sight, her nails artfully manicured and her clothes always immaculate. I tease her about her interest in all these superficial things and she exclaims that I, in my dal-stained jeans, have always been a total disgrace to the family. Every Friday, she goes for her prayers in the prettiest cotton saris with a string of pearls around her neck.

What is so extraordinary about her story, you may wonder?

She is a woman who has seen three out of her four children die before her very eyes.
Sometimes I think the tiny joy she gets from her little indulgences is what keeps her going and distracts her from the anguish she must have gone through seeing what she has.

My childhood friends – two lovely sisters – lost their mother a few years ago. When I went for the prayer meeting, I was slightly taken aback to see them wearing a lot of makeup. I would have judged them as very shallow if I had not been close to their family and knew how much they had loved their mother and how devastated they were at her demise. Maybe this was their way of getting through this terrible day, maybe they needed a mask to keep everything together, maybe their mom who I had never seen without a large bright bindi on her forehead, would be the only one who understood

My friend recently separated from her husband. She now lives alone with her young daughter, goes to the gym every single day and is looking like a million bucks. Her wardrobe has changed dramatically from kurtas to pretty dresses. Every once in a while, we catch up for coffee and each time I see her, she seems to look leaner, fitter and happier.

I go to visit a family friend in the hospital. She has been dealing with cancer for a while now and though she is lucky to have tremendous family support, only she knows what it is like to deal with fear and pain on a daily basis. She is sitting in her hospital bed in her pajamas, with a turban jauntily perched on her head. And on her lips, she is wearing the brightest, happiest red lipstick. When I ask her about it, she says that whenever she feels low and run down, she puts on her lipstick and it just cheers her up tremendously.

A pretty dress, a new haircut, a string of pearls are all trivial material things that should not matter because they have nothing to do with our inner self, but we forget that our physical form is strongly connected to our identity. It is how we interact with the world around us.

When my family friend puts on her red lipstick, she is telling the world that she still has HOPE.

There is no one of us who doesn’t experience problems in life…Never allow them to drag you down….Sometimes, the only thing you have left is HOPE.

Hope that every tomorrow of yours is more special than yesterday..

On that note …Put on the Red Lipstick. Adjust the crown on your head and Face the world!!

Madhavi    Related image





My wish for you for 2019



A small note to thank my readers for following and reading my blog/posts. Your support and encouragement is the wind beneath my wings.

I send sincere wishes your way to have a wonderful 2019. May you find lots of opportunities to shine.

God bless you !

Love & Regards

Madhavi 🙂

Christmas Candles


The word “Advent” is derived from the Latin word adventus, meaning “coming,” which is a translation of the Greek word parousia. Advent is a time of expectation and hope. “Advent” means “arrival” or “coming”.

The season of Advent lasts for four Sundays leading up to Christmas. The most common Advent tradition is the decoration of the wreathes and the candles.

The Advent wreath was created out of evergreens, symbolizing everlasting life in the midst of winter and death. The circle reminds us of God’s unending love and the eternal life. Advent candles are often nestled in the evergreen wreath. Families begin lighting a candle on the fourth Sunday before Christmas, and they light another candle each subsequent Sunday.

Each candle represents something different, although traditions vary.

Occasionally, a fifth white candle is placed in the middle and is lit on Christmas Day to celebrate Jesus’ birth.



The first candle symbolizes hope and is called the “Prophet’s Candle.” The prophets of the Old Testament, especially Isaiah, waited in hope for the Messiah’s arrival.

The second candle represents faith and is called “Bethlehem’s Candle.” Micah had foretold that the Messiah would be born in Bethlehem, which is also the birthplace of King David.

The third candle symbolizes joy and is called the “Shepherd’s Candle.” To the shepherd’s great joy, the angels announced that Jesus came for humble, unimportant people like them, too. In liturgy, the color rose signifies joy.

The fourth candle represents peace and is called the “Angel’s Candle.” The angels announced that Jesus came to bring peace–He came to bring people close to God and to each other again.

The (optional) fifth candle represents light and purity and is called “Christ’s Candle.” It is placed in the middle and is lit on Christmas Day

Christmas is not only the happiest time on the planet, to rejoice, but it is also a time to reflect.

Amidst all the celebrations, decorations and feasting, let’s take moment and ponder on the life we have lived for the past 12 months.

While we light up our houses with twinkling fairy lights, candles and lanterns, let us remember not only the birth of Christ, but also the goodness of humanity around us. Let us spend sometime today to sit in meditative silence and light a few candles within our hearts.

Light the First Candle and let it burn your anger and / or jealousy that you may have for any one till date; and slowly visualise it melt away…

Light the Second Candle and let it burn away unwanted greed and desires… Feel happy and contented with all that you have been blessed with.

Light the Third Candle and let it fade away all insecurities that you may have in your mind related to your finances, your job, or your future. Just believe that if   God has presented you with a life then he will surely give you enough to survive.

Light the Fourth Candle and carry the flame of that candle to each part of your body, letting it burn away all your diseased cells or any disease in making. Feel healthy as this flame travels to each body part and illuminates each organ.

The Fifth Candle is a replica of a miniature Sun… the divine light… visualize the rays of the sun in the centre of your body and let it fill the warmth and love engulfing your whole body…feel one with the Divine… let the love and warmth filled inside you radiate through your smile, your eyes, and your speech.

Wishing you all a very Merry and Happy Christmas.

God bless !


What’s in your giveaway goody bag?



So here we are again, my absolute favourite time of year, Christmas!

Being born and brought up in Mumbai, and coming from a convent educated school, Christmas celebrations were a huge part of my growing up years . At school we used to have competitions making Christmas Nativity sets and form groups singing Christmas carols in the neighbourhood.

I haven’t enjoyed any other festival as much as I have Christmas. It’s that magical month, bringing back many memories of my childhood. I remember running to my friend’s house after school to help in their annual ritual of preparing Christmas sweets and other delicacies.

Even today Christmas for me is all about decorating Christmas trees, fairy lights, yummy cakes, breads and puddings, wine and all things nice. Everything around is so full of celebration and seems so much prettier with the city being decorated with lights and paper lanterns.

But along with the celebrations, Christmas is also a time of giving and sharing with those around us. But that sharing is not limited to those that we love and care for. It is also for the person that we have never met and will never see. Those who are not as fortunate in their lives as we are and could use a helping hand.

If you are thinking of doing something to help the less fortunate now is the perfect time to open out your heart and your wallet. The satisfaction that comes from making a difference in the lives of others cannot be compared to any other feeling.

Knowing that you have helped make someone else’s Christmas a wee bit brighter is a special feeling, and one that has a feel good factor long after the holidays are over.

So what you can give today? What’s in your giveaway goody bag?

Is it a warm smile to someone? Or giving some food to a homeless? Or maybe volunteer at an old age home, a children’s ward in the hospital,  or offer some other help in the community college or a government run school? Maybe you can offer warm clothes that you no longer use and need to someone on the streets. Maybe you can donate a month’s groceries to your domestic help. Or even give the unbroken toys and clothes that are in good condition but no longer fit, to the children’s orphanage.

There are so many ways you can help. Your actions will mean the world to those in need.

Do a random act of kindness and make his world a much better place to live in.

Wishing you warmth and happiness in this festive season!!  Related image