But the question here is how? How do I know who is the real me?
Finding oneself may be searching for the purpose of your life to say it in a broader sense. But actually, it is finding and knowing yourself through the innumerable priceless moments you experience daily. Life is not some kind of a board game, which you have to play it in one go from start to finish.
Life has many ‘rasas’. (Rasa is a Sanskrit word and has many translations in English, the main ones being: essence, juice, nectar, taste, or sap.)
Rasa is in everything, or I should say… everything has Rasa. Though some things have a higher vibrational essence, others have lower. Rasa is the invisible substance that gives life meaning.
Quoting Aristotle, who said ‘Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.”
To truly know yourself is the most important skill you can ever possess. When you know who you are, you will instinctively know what you need to do, instead of looking for permission from others.
And the best way to find this is to be still. Meditate. Look within. Just be with your own some lonesome. It is a perfect time to be one with yourself and evaluating yourself. That’s when you are truly truthful about you and every other facet of your life.
Many people don’t know themselves because any sort of silence scares them; it’s too uncomfortable to be alone with every flaw staring back at them. But being quiet and discovering your true self is so highly addictive.
Find what you are good at (and not good at).This might be the most difficult step in the process of finding who you are, but it’s a necessary one. Give yourself ample time of trial and error to find what you’re good at, and don’t give up before you’ve had more than enough attempts.
Quit only when your efforts aren’t giving back in return. What is ample time? Only you can decide that. But when you quit correctly, it isn’t giving up, it’s making room for something better. When your actions do nothing but drain you—rather than produce more passion and increase your drive to do more—that’s a good sign it is time to focus elsewhere.
This will also lead you realizing where your true passion lies. Pay attention
And if you think asking a friend or a family member what they have to say about you could help, go ahead and do that. Of course, their opinion isn’t going to be perfect, but their feedback will probably indicate a few areas you may want to at least take a second look at.
A large aspect of knowing yourself can be found in your relationships. Almost as much as you need to know yourself, other people also need to know who you are. People need you—the real you.
Because when you understand who you are meant to be, your purpose will finally become bigger than your fears.
And remember to stop chasing people. If they block you or cut off contact with you or ignore you, let them go. The ones who enjoy your energy and what you bring to the table will naturally gravitate towards you. Stop trying to ‘prove your worth’ and cling on to relationships just because they made you happy once. Let them off and cherish those who want you and want to be with you by their own free will and not because you want them to be.
Finding what you really want from your life is going to be a tough call. You will have to let go of a lot of things that you held close to your heart.
Pay close attention to those moments that leave you truly satisfied and happy? That’s the voice of your soul calling.
You may have heard the phrase – “do not settle.” Understand this. We are all meant for great things and eventually we all come together to form a great world.
Nothing stops us but our limited thoughts.
Nothing helps us grow like our imagination.
Do not let your fears kill your dreams or potential.
Challenge your fears and make them disappear.
Your greatest strength has always been You .
And remember to-
‘Love yourself the way you wish to be loved by others’.