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Many a times we feel as if we are living life in a rut. We continue doing the same things over and over again monotonously, with no respite from them, and without realizing that they are taking a toll on our mental well-being.

Often we merely manage to stay afloat in spite of the numerous hurdles just because duty calls for it. It takes a lot of nerve to stay reasonably sane. You then resort to drinking and smoking to drown out the unanswered prayers, or begin to party hard just to pretend that everything is going well.

Life sucks even more when you go online and see so many people portraying that they are having a blast.

However having a confidante or a friend who will listen to your sob stories without judging you does help. You value that at least they know where you stand. They don’t disapprove of you or try to offer a carrot stick, but genuinely understand your woes and offer you not only a shoulder to cry on but also give solutions to make your life bearable. They send you motivation morning messages everyday on WhatsApp just so that you can live through another day with a smile on your face. It does have a reassuring effect on your psyche to see that caring friends have your back, but after a few days, the gloom creeps back on you and its back to square one.

But think about it …By adopting a positive mindset, our resilience does increase along with our capacity to explore the world, while feeling confident and secure. Negative thoughts and emotions, on the other hand, can skew our perspective and in the long-term, damage our self-esteem.

It’s said that you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with. There is an inherent truth to that, as we, as social creatures, pick up on the habits, behaviors, and attitudes of those around us. What that means is that if you want the strength and positivity to get through anything, you must keep your circle of friends and associates as healthy as you can. Wherever possible, and in situations such as work where you may not have control, you must learn how to practice positivity so its spreads to those around you.

Much of what we see in the world is a reflection of how we feel inside. The brain is literally creating your experience moment to moment. This means that your prefrontal cortex, which deals with your thoughts, is relaying information to your mammalian cortex, which handles emotions. These emotions then go on to inform deeper and older parts of the brain, including sensory experience and pain. This means that when we say a positive attitude can recreate your reality, it’s not just a metaphor, it’s a physiological fact!

Gratitude is a key tenet in all major philosophies, religions, and schools of thought, because gratitude is a foundation of positive thinking. When you are able to be appreciative of what you have, your brain is unable to give life and energy to thoughts about what you don’t have. Seeing events in your life as gifts allow you to perceive how they may help you grow and become a better person, and the application of this attitude during tough times is the hallmark of resilience.

Because positivity is so infectious, it naturally becomes a quality that other people want in their lives. Positivity is an extremely attractive personality trait, and it becomes an inspiration for everyone else. Writing, meditation, affirmations, and integrating more play into your life are all ways that you can rewire your brain to be more focused on the positive aspects of your experience.

And when it gets too much for you to bear, look up positive quotes, poems, articles, etc to help you tide over the misery. There’s a cliché in the personal development world that can be polarizing. Some people shy away from Positive Thinking, believing it to be cheap or tacky, while others swear by it as if it was some sort of magic pill.

And often one of the best ways to get into the habit of thinking positively is to peak into the minds of other positive people’s quotes by reading what they’ve said or written. Although our lives are filled with unexpected challenges, and some of us will have a more difficult time than others, I do hope these quotes about positivity will help you get through anything.

Sharing below some of the quotes which are my personal favorites.

 

  •  “Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down.”- Oprah Winfrey

 

  • “Keep your face to the sunshine and you cannot see a shadow.”-Helen Keller

 

  • “Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.”- Lucille Ball

 

  • “Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”-Rumi

 

  •  “The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step.” -Lao Tzu

 

  • “You must be the change you wish to see in the world.” –Gandhi

 

  • “Tough times never last, but tough people do.”-Dr. Robert Schuller

 

  • “There is only one success: to be able to spend your life in your own way.” -Christopher Morley

 

  • “The best way out is always through.”-Robert Frost

 

  • “Once you choose hope, anything’s possible.”-Christopher Reeve

 

  • “Don’t wait. The time will never be just right.”-Napoleon Hill

 

  • “The only place where your dreams become impossible is in your own thinking,”- Robert H Schuller

 

  •  “We become what we think about.”- Early Nightingale

 

  •  “Surround yourself with the dreamers, and the doers, the believers, and thinkers, but most of all, surround yourself with those who see the greatness within you, even when you don’t see it yourself.”-Edmund Lee

 

 

Sending you much love and hope !!

madhavi 🙂

 

 

Deeply Connected or Over Emotional?

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I was shopping at a clothing store a few days back when I overheard a couple of young girls passionately discussing and dissecting a forthcoming wedding that was to take place between two of Bollywood’s mega stars.

It was a typical nonsensical and useless tête-à-tête which was none of their business in the first place.

And I don’t know why, but it bothered me. Flimsy stuff like that always bothers me. I couldn’t “shrug things off,” and move on. I was dwelling, and obsessing on that conversation for the whole day. And I couldn’t understand why?

It had nothing to do with me. And everyone has a right to their opinion. So why was this conversation whirring around in my head?

Was it, because I feel emotions more deeply?  And react to things faster, and more intensely than other people do. It’s like getting hit with the first shot of tequila.

And yes, I worry. I worry about this, and that, and every other thing. I don’t shy away from things that make me uncomfortable, because I always seem to be uncomfortable.

I understand that I am not a mess, but a deeply feeling person in a messy world. I cry more than I laugh. I feel more than I should.

But then, I guess when you are connected to everything, you somehow also feel responsible for everything. You just can’t turn your back away from most situations and the people in your life. Your destiny becomes bound with their destiny.

It’s good to feel the pain of others and be compassionate. Empathy is a powerful and arguably rare trait to possess, but the one thing I keep reminding myself is, to be strong enough to love not only my family and friends, but more importantly, myself too.

People like me who feel too much are no strangers to excessive anger, sadness, happiness, etc. They experience every emotion on the spectrum way more deeply than they’d like. Holding back the tidal waves of feelings is just plain impossible. It’s like standing at the edge of the ocean when a giant wave moves in too fast for you to escape it.

You do realise that you don’t control your emotions – they control you. And when you have one of those teary moods, everything and anything whether it is a movie, a book or a song, everything can turn on those waterworks and make you howl.

And as much as I’d like to deny this, I can’t. People, who feel so much, become highly perceptive to other people’s feelings. And honestly, there are very few people who understand the true, inner workings of your mind. They think they know you but in reality they don’t. They can never understand what it is like to feel hurt, or misunderstood, or even ignored.

This is the reason why we appreciate solitude so much. Its only when we are truly alone that we can take the time to deeply reflect upon our feelings. Although it may make us appear to be aloof and stand offish, but in reality this is the time we certainly need to sort through our emotions.

And it explains why we are drawn to other deep and introspective individuals, either in a friendly or romantic way. Their similar mindset, deep talks and wisdom are like an energy bar for our tired souls.

There are probably so many days in a year when I wish I could just “chill out” and take life as it is, but then circumstances take precedence over my needs, and I can’t. But I guess that’s okay. One just learns to live through it.

I just believe in following my heart!!!