Embrace the change

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It’s been a long time, hasn’t it?

A long time since you socialised with your friends.
A long time since you went back to work.
A long time since those coffee breaks and quick drinks.
A long time since you went on that drive.
A long time since you met your love.
A long time since you went on dates.
A long time since you exchanged hugs and kisses.
A long time since you walked the streets and caught the eye of a stranger.
A long time since you had a stroll in the parks.
A long time since you were in the midst of a commotion.
A long time has passed, and so much has changed.
Days, weeks and months flew by, and you are somewhat different now.

You have…….
A sense of comfort in your own solitude.
A sense of strength in your solidarity.
A sense of tranquility in your mind.
A sense of being connected in all this separation.
A sense of purpose.
You have changed, my god you have.
Don’t let anyone take this away from you.
Don’t be forced to shift back to what you used to be.

You have found so much in this space.
Take your time.
You still might be healing.
You still might be on the way to finding your sense of self.
Remember this and remember well.
You have changed, and it’s a good thing.

Cherish it. Celebrate it. Enhance it. .

 

-Madhavi

 

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What’s your IKIGAI?

Diagram of Japanese ikigai concept

Things have been extremely difficult for all of us for the past few months. No one would have ever anticipated this pandemic that has gripped our lives.

We have all some time or the other heard stories of war, partition, epidemics and holocaust from our parents/grandparents. And now as we grope to come to terms with this situation I am sure this story of our own struggle and survival will be shared with our own grandchildren.

However , as we continue trying to find some semblance into our ‘not so normal’ life and coming to terms with our new reality , there’s no better time than now to refocus our energies, and really plan out our hopes and goals for the future.

While most of the world’s population is struggling with unemployment and loss of life of their loved ones, we are still trying to find the truth of our own reality and are looking out for a better way to fully embrace everything life has in store for us.

Enter ikigai, the age-old Japanese ideology. A combination of the Japanese words “iki” which translates to “life,” and “gai”, which is used to describe value or worth, ikigai is all about finding joy in life through purpose.

In other words, your ikigai is what gets you up every morning and keeps you going.

The origin of the word ikigai goes back to the Heian period (794 to 1185). Clinical psychologist and avid expert of the ikigai evolution, Akihiro Hasegawa released a research paper in 2001 where he wrote that the word “gai” comes from the word “kai” which translates to “shell” in Japanese.

During the Heian period, shells were extremely valuable, so the association of value is still inherently seen in this word. It can also be seen in similar Japanese words like hatarakigai, which means the value of work, or yarigai ~ga aru , meaning “it’s worth doing it.”

“Gai” is the key to finding your purpose, or value in life. Basically it’s all about overlapping four main qualities: what you are good at, what the world needs, what you can be paid for, and of course, what you love.

Many sociologists, scientists, and journalists have researched and hypothesized the usefulness and truth behind this particular phenomenon, and they’ve come to a number of very interesting conclusions. One particular theory is that ikigai can make you live longer and with more purpose and direction.

What’s your ikigai?

Each one of us has certain habits that shape our day. Our routines of daily activity form what’s most important as you begin each day to what’s not.

It could be doing some form of exercise early morning before doing anything else or praying as you wake , followed by getting all the normal things one does sets the pace for the routine as the day advances.

I start mine with yoga followed by my hot steaming cuppa chai and reading the newspaper.

And then I get down to my blogging, or any other writing, for about an hour or so. That way I have dedicated time to my health and one of the activities that give ikigai to my life- which is writing. This gives me a sense of having accomplished in doing something I am passionate about. I then get to organize the day and all the other random things.

You have to understand one thing- ikigai is not always about financial endeavors. Having a hobby that you can dedicate your time to, raising a family, or being able to work and make steps towards diving deep into that passion project you’ve always fantasized about, are all ikigai.

If you’re feeling lost or unsure about what your ikigai is, there are a number of ways to refocus your mind and purpose.

It doesn’t matter whether “you are a teaching, the mother of a newborn child or a Michelin-starred chef’ – if you can find pleasure and satisfaction in what you do and you’re good at it, congratulations you have found your ikigai.”

Basically all you need is to “gain awareness of the current status of your life.”

Don’t fret if you haven’t found yours yet. Just go with the flow of life. Research has uncovered that just like music taste, fashion and, opinions, a person’s ikigai can change and morph with age. And it’s never too late to start doing anything at any age in life and then enjoying it .

Now, when the world order is changing, it’s time to refocus on yourself, your passions and embrace the larger picture that is life.

]f you can find pleasure and satisfaction in what you do and you’re good at it, congratulations you have found your ikigai.

Madhavi

 

Know Yourself

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But the question here is how? How do I know who is the real me?

Finding oneself may be searching for the purpose of your life to say it in a broader sense. But actually, it is finding and knowing yourself through the innumerable priceless moments you experience daily. Life is not some kind of a board game, which you have to play it in one go from start to finish.

Life has many ‘rasas’. (Rasa is a Sanskrit word and has many translations in English, the main ones being: essence, juice, nectar, taste, or sap.)

Rasa is in everything, or I should say… everything has Rasa. Though some things have a higher vibrational essence, others have lower. Rasa is the invisible substance that gives life meaning.

Quoting Aristotle, who said ‘Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.” 

To truly know yourself is the most important skill you can ever possess. When you know who you are, you will instinctively know what you need to do, instead of looking for permission from others.

And the best way to find this is to be still. Meditate. Look within. Just be with your own some lonesome. It is a perfect time to be one with yourself and evaluating yourself. That’s when you are truly truthful about you and every other facet of your life.

Many people don’t know themselves because any sort of silence scares them; it’s too uncomfortable to be alone with every flaw staring back at them. But being quiet and discovering your true self is so highly addictive.

Find what you are good at (and not good at).This might be the most difficult step in the process of finding who you are, but it’s a necessary one. Give yourself ample time of trial and error to find what you’re good at, and don’t give up before you’ve had more than enough attempts.

Quit only when your efforts aren’t giving back in return. What is ample time? Only you can decide that. But when you quit correctly, it isn’t giving up, it’s making room for something better. When your actions do nothing but drain you—rather than produce more passion and increase your drive to do more—that’s a good sign it is time to focus elsewhere.

This will also lead you realizing where your true passion lies. Pay attention

And if you think asking a friend or a family member what they have to say about you could help, go ahead and do that. Of course, their opinion isn’t going to be perfect, but their feedback will probably indicate a few areas you may want to at least take a second look at.

A large aspect of knowing yourself can be found in your relationships. Almost as much as you need to know yourself, other people also need to know who you are. People need you—the real you.

Because when you understand who you are meant to be, your purpose will finally become bigger than your fears.

And remember to stop chasing people. If they block you or cut off contact with you or ignore you, let them go. The ones who enjoy your energy and what you bring to the table will naturally gravitate towards you. Stop trying to ‘prove your worth’ and cling on to relationships just because they made you happy once. Let them off and cherish those who want you and want to be with you by their own free will and not because you want them to be.

Finding what you really want from your life is going to be a tough call. You will have to let go of a lot of things that you held close to your heart.

Pay close attention to those moments that leave you truly satisfied and happy? That’s the voice of your soul calling.

You may have heard the phrase – “do not settle.” Understand this. We are all meant for great things and eventually we all come together to form a great world.

Nothing stops us but our limited thoughts.

Nothing helps us grow like our imagination.

Do not let your fears kill your dreams or potential.

Challenge your fears and make them disappear.

Your greatest strength has always been You .

And remember to-

‘Love yourself the way you wish to be loved by others’.

-M