You will spot her from a mile away. She holds her head a little higher and she has a certain air about her when she walks. Making her own way in the world, she knows how to get what she wants……Yup SHE is an Alpha Woman.
So, why is it that most men are scared shit of an alpha female?
Well, I guess men don’t like to be challenged, especially by women. I hate to say this, but in most cases this is true. So, when women challenge them, men feel uncomfortable and intimidated with the idea that a woman might be better than them and because they are afraid they might lose their ‘macho-provider’ attitude.
Some men rely on good looks and a few pick-up lines to impress a woman. BUT, Alpha women don’t fall for that kind of crap. They need much more from a man to be impressed (if they are to be impressed at all). They want brains, looks, humor…They want the whole package—because they themselves are the whole package. Too many people think that an alpha woman is just a dominating bitch with no softness to her, but that’s not true at all. Her soft side is as powerful as her hustle.
Let’s not beat around the bush and face the facts here. It takes a very strong and secure man to date an Alpha woman.
And if you land yourself an alpha female, it’s pretty normal that the more you get to know her, the more she will scare the hell out of you, because of how fearless and outspoken she is.
She says and does things with great intensity, and it can be a lot all at once if you’re used to women who are more doting and submissive.
She’s as fierce with her words as she is with her heart and if she falls for a man, she falls deeply. There’s no in between with an alpha female. She works hard, plays hard, and loves harder.
An alpha woman isn’t one to sit back and let life come to her — she goes out and makes stuff happen for herself. She’s not a lazy partner and makes sure life is organized and stress-free. She genuinely enjoys responsibility. Alpha women seek partners who are motivated and want to build empires with the men they choose to spend their lives with. SHE’LL PUSH YOU TO BECOME BETTER.
She’s not the type that’ll let herself go because her personality type simply won’t allow it. She takes care of her health, her finances and her emotional well-being no matter what disaster might be thrown her way. She’ll do whatever she needs to feel good about herself because feeling amazing allows her to bring her best and happiest self to the relationship.
She might come across as too much to handle or as a woman who doesn’t need anyone, but if she chooses to date you, remember she chose you too.
Dating her is a pretty amazing experience if you can look past the initial intimidating traits she possesses because those traits are actually what make dating her one of the best experiences you’ll ever have.
If you’re brave enough fully submerge yourself in the relationship, you’ll wonder why you hadn’t dated an amazing alpha female sooner.
A simple, yet profound statement. But the question is Do We?
The Buddhists have known for years that gratitude has been scientifically proven to strengthen your immune system and make you happier and more optimistic.
Human nature is to want what we don’t have and to dwell on the negatives—instead of celebrating what we do have and focusing on what’s going well.
I am guilty too of the same for a while now. Being a naturally free spirited person, I am uncomfortable with any kind of bondage that traps my mind, body and soul. My soul just starts rejecting it. So it is a battle of wits between what I want and what I have.
But sometimes circumstances in your life bring you to a point where despite your best efforts things are not as happening as you would like them to be.
Of late there have been some situations at home which have been draining me completely of all energy and positivity. It has left me exhausted and completely in a rotten mood. I am blaming not only the circumstances but also the other people in my life to an extent.
And recently all the pent up frustration was lashed out to my son who was on a long distance phone call.
On the other side he was bearing the brunt of my vile vomit of words. Not saying a word, he listened.
I went on and on for about 15 minutes till he found a pause in my words and then he spoke, as gently and calmly, as he naturally is.
His words not honey coated but real. Understanding me and making me understand.
Once the poison left my body I apologized to him, for bearing with an overly emotional mother and for saying things to him which he wasn’t even responsible for.
“I am so so sorry” I texted, again and again.
And he texted back, “its better the poison was thrown towards me, rather than anyone else, I know it wasn’t meant for me so it did not affect me, but I am glad it is out of your system”.
And every day, after that dreadful conversation, looking back, I wonder how your children suddenly become so mature enough that they take on the role of your protector.
And then you have your entire life pass by before your eyes, and all the teachings, and life lessons you taught your kids come back to you in multitude ways.
You are in awe of the universe and grateful to have such blessed souls around you to take care of you and remind you of things which you may have forgotten but they remember.
My point here is this. It can be easy to get swept away in the fast lane and forget to stop and show your appreciation for what you do have.
Gratitude doesn’t have to be saved for the “big” things in life. Being grateful everyday for waking up healthy, for having food on the table and clean home and clothes on your back is equally important. Gratitude is your partner understanding your moods.
Gratitude is not only about being thankful for positive experiences. In fact, sometimes thinking about negative or difficult situations can help to really nail down what you have to be thankful for.
Gratitude is being very very thankful for those handful people in your life who find it a blessing to have you in theirs.
Gratitude is to give back to others what they lack. Volunteering for the purpose of helping others increases our own well-being, and thus our ability to have more gratitude.
With so many bad things happening around the world, if you can find just one moment in your life that you are grateful about, then enjoy it and…….
Count your blessings!
A man walks out to the street and catches a taxi just going by. He gets into the taxi, and the cabbie says, “Perfect timing. You’re just like Frank.”
Cabbie: “Frank Feldman. He’s a guy who did everything right all the time. Like my coming along when you needed a cab, things happened like that to Frank Feldman every single time.”
Passenger: “There are always a few clouds over everybody.”
Cabbie: “Not Frank Feldman. He was a terrific athlete. He could have won the Grand-Slam at tennis. He could golf with the pros. He sang like an opera baritone and danced like a Broadway star and you should have heard him play the piano. He was an amazing guy.”
Passenger: “Sounds like he was really something special.”
Cabbie: “There’s more. He had a memory like a computer. He remembered everybody’s birthday. He knew all about wine, which foods to order and which fork to eat them with. He could fix anything. Not like me. I change a fuse, and the whole street blacks out. But Frank Feldman could do everything right.”
Passenger: “Wow, what a guy!”
Cabbie: ‘He always knew the quickest way to go in traffic and avoid traffic jams. Not like me, I always seem to get stuck in them. But Frank, he never made a mistake, and he really knew how to treat a woman and make her feel good. He would never answer her back even if she was in the wrong; and his clothing was always immaculate, shoes highly polished too. He was the perfect man! He never made a mistake. No one could ever measure up to Frank Feldman.”
Passenger: “How did you meet him?”
Cabbie: “I never actually met Frank. He died and I married his wife.”
Well isn’t Perfection such a myth? It’s like climbing a staircase that never ends. Being “perfect” isn’t something that is taught or found in a “how to” book; it’s something you find within yourself. The most important thing is being honest with yourself and accepting who you really are. The moment you’re comfortable in your own skin, and are doing things you love … that’s the moment you’ll know perfection.
When we are ensnared by the vision of a perfect person, we compare all others to an unreachable standard… and find everyone lacking. Our expectation that a perfect person exists is surely to guarantee failure. The demand for compatibility is never satisfied. When people agree about almost everything, the few points of difference can still seem — to them — enormous. …the ‘right person’ is specified so closely that they will never find such a person; they will always be disappointed because whoever they find will fall short in some way.
Waiting for Mr/Ms Perfect to come along is to say that you have no personal responsibility for what happens to you. When a relationship fails, we do not consider that we might lack humility, empathy or understanding. Instead, we invoke a convenient excuse and say, “We just weren’t right for each other.”
Love is not simply about finding the right person. It’s also about cultivating a set of valuable skills: kindness, sympathy, and understanding. But no matter what, always remember, relationships are hard, complicated, triggering, and yet so utterly worthwhile if we do the work. Love isn’t a state of perfect caring. To love someone completely one must strive to accept that person exactly the way he or she is, right here and now.
“Truth is everybody is going to hurt you: you just got to find the ones worth suffering for.”- Bob Marley