Why do we meet people who are not meant to stay in our life?
Parents don’t always stay. Neither do friends. And neither do romantic partners.
And then there are those fleeting acquaintances and passing strangers that, for brief but meaningful moments, make a huge impact on us.
And we realize that whatever said and done, some relationships are not meant to last. Most of the people in our life simply come and go.
And you wonder what was it? Did you say something to piss them off? Or are you no good at keeping relationships with anyone?
And you can’t help but wonder if there was something wrong with you. Why did these people come into our life for just a short time ? Are they our guardian angels or our soulmates?
While this could be taken as negative and, sometimes, even painful, if we look at it differently, we will see the gifts these people came to bring.
When we speak of soulmates, most people think of “the one”—their one true love—or their best friend (whether it’s a parent, sibling, childhood friend, or someone else). We attribute it to that special bond with someone we’ve known most of our life.
But we don’t just have one soulmate. There could be a few or many that become part of our life. They could turn up in different forms and they are brought into our life through synchronicity—or dare I say, destiny.
Soulmate meetings sometimes is only for mere moments, an hour, a day, a decade, a lifetime – this is how souls relate.
But one thing is certain when you meet someone with whom you have shared past lives, there may be a sudden feeling of familiarity, an intuitive knowing of what to say and how they will react, a sense of deep trust and safety. And you feel a sense of comfort and warmth when you are with them.
Yet even this brief amount of time can change one’s life completely.
Of course there’s a sadness that comes with the loss of such deep connection. Often, we become so entangled in the drama of our daily interactions that we fail to see a deeper communion taking place or fail to understand it all together. Soulmates come into our lives to add a deeper meaning, and bring a gift of purposeful growth.
And yes soulmates are never with us always. They come and go within our lifetime and are, quite literally, just passing by.
Love is not supposed to feel like pain. Love should liberate you from the bondage of attachment. Love is meant to empower you and become your strength. Love should make you feel worthy of yourself. Love is supposed to build you up and make you shine from inside out.
You will know it’s love when you find the one.
He /she won’t be coming into your life with a light over their head looking for you or shouting from rooftops announcing that they are the one. You won’t feel any butterflies in your stomach or have some fancy dreams like they show in the movies.
It’s going to be a very very ordinary encounter when that special person walks into your life. They will not attempt to stand out of the crowd with their talk and their behaviour.
They will be the quiet and comforting kinds. The one, who will listen to your nonstop idiotic jabber with a wonder in their eyes and a smile on their faces. They will think that you are a complete fool. They will even make fun of your every move and laugh at your nonsense.
But they will be kind, funny and safe.
You will feel like being in the safest place on earth when you are with them. You can sit with them in total silence and it won’t be awkward or boring.
They will win your trust before they win your heart.
They won’t be the most significant person to you at first, but you will be invariably drawn to them like a magnet. And when they become the most important person in your life you will settle for no other.
You will never question their motive but rather believe them wholeheartedly.
They will be the one who understands your mood by just a text message you send them. They will know and understand that you have your bad days and that you are not perfect in any way, but will stick around you in spite of it all. They will know how to cope with your mood swings and how to control your anger.
They will stand by you; stand by your fears and your dreams, your hopes and your insecurities. They will stand with you and help you build your confidence. They will motivate and inspire you.
They will respect you for who you are, never trying to change you or your beliefs.
They will let you live your life according to your whims .They will protect you and guide you.
They will definitely sweep you off your feet but it will be a slow gradual sweeping- the one you won’t even realize.
They will love you quietly in their own sweet way. But that love will be worth every ounce of its weight in ‘gold’
That’s when you will know whom your heart and soul belongs to.
Nothing in what happens in your life is a coincidence.
Everything is predetermined and preordained by the creator. Two incidents in the past few days have reinforced my belief that coincidences are merely what you attract in your life at that particular time.
Good things, bad things…whatever it may be, it’s all happening the way it should be unfolded.
Life’s lessons are usually learnt in some uncomfortable circumstances. The lessons that teach you to either let go or have more faith.
Let’s go a little back here to emphasise the point I am getting at. Sometimes life’s responsibilities drag you into a whirlpool of immense work and you have less choice but to face that task alone. And those responsibilities bring with them a tsunami of intense emotions that take over your logical mind completely and leave you vulnerable and naked to negativity.
While I am a stay at home caretaker to an aged parent, I sometimes feel the need to take a breather from the stress of daily duties and just unwind. Some days that is possible, but when a long period of time goes by, the things at hand go so out of control that I am on the verge of losing my mind.
I do have house help, to handle the daily requirements, but there is no one around most of the time to have a decent conversation with.
I do have friends but then they too have their own issues to deal with and we can’t seem to find a common time to meet up to just enjoy each other’s company. I mean how much can one talk on the phone? My mind yearns to have conversations which ‘feed my soul’. Or just meet people who can change my perspective on things without sounding condescending.
Sometimes on weekends when the man of the house is in to share in his bit, I do like to go off to the parlour and self indulge in a little pampering. So about 2 weeks back as I was about to go for one of my ‘perk me up’ sessions I sent a silent prayer to the universe to please let me meet someone who I can have a normal and regular chit chat with. And guess what!
She came! Right there in the parlour.
I had never seen or met her before. I do not know who she was. But we just connected, and got talking, about random things, about poetry, about religion, about soul mates and twin flames.
There was no awkwardness. Our energies were synchronising together and the conversation just started flowing like a meandering river. The time just flew by. We spend nearly two hours talking.
It was the most liberating soul nourishing experience I have had after a long time. Suddenly all the stress and tension in my body seemed to evaporate.
Let me narrate another incident if this isn’t enough to satisfy your curiosity. I was in tatters and tears a couple of days back. Life felt like a huge burden I could not carry anymore. Although I am usually very strong about the upheavals in my life and take it in stride, but that day was I like walking on fire with my eyes open. I had had enough.
There are times when family can never understand what you are going through. And at times like these you turn to the one you feel most comfortable with, a friend or a colleague, or even a guru or mentor, to vent out your insecurities and your negativity.
And out of the blue without thinking much, I just decided to vent out my feelings to a dear friend. He has a very positive and calming influence on my mind. He gives me the silent non judgmental, but at the same time an understated and tremendous support which is invaluable for me. He can read my mind. He is like a punching bag for me. I can just spew on a lot of things on him and he never complains about me nagging him. He quietly listens.
He just read the text full of negativity and ranting and texted back ‘what time can I speak to you? That’s it. That’s all I wanted to hear I guess. That he was around. That I wasn’t alone.
I knew he listened and understood what was happening. Sometimes that’s all you ever need. For someone to listen and not give you strong words of advice.
So anyway, I did not want to talk to him as then it would have me crying bucketfuls in front of him and that is something I definitely did not want to do. I cannot do that. No matter what shit I am going through I just cannot cry in front of anyone. It’s just not me.
Anyway what I am coming to is that he had changed his profile pic a few minutes back. And it was no coincidence that it had to happen at such a crucifying time for me. After I sent him my message I just opened his pic and was looking at it for a long time. It was like he was near me, his eyes urging me to hold on and be strong.
It was as if the universe was looking out for me, because suddenly my mood shifted. I became calm. There was no anxiety or bitterness left in my heart anymore.
Were these two incidents just a mere coincidence? I think not. And if it was, then I would say that such meaningful coincidences help get us to places we need to be without knowing how we got there.
You may call it Fate or Mystery, or the Universe or God, but it’s about all the things happening to us or falling into place or coming together in a surprising, unexpected way without an obvious explanation. As you begin to accept it as synchronicity it drastically changes your life.
Everything that happens is predetermined and will be revealed to us when our soul is ready to accept the change. Synchronicity is like a mirror – whatever you believe in and manifest for yourself, it will reflect back to you. You just have to believe in it.
It is for a reason that your spirit guides never fails to tell you to be positive and not let the negative take on your senses and bog you down.
The Chance meeting with that woman or the picture of my friend changing at that precise moment was not a coincidence. It was written in my soul plan. The Universe was merely reflecting back to me what I was attracting at that moment. Such incidents are rarely an accident. Sometimes I agree things are not in our control but our realities are largely the result of our unconscious wants and the energies that manifest within.
The point is that everything you attract into your life – every person, every object, and every experience –has all been drawn into your reality by none other than YOU
Think about this!!