Soulmates passing by.

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Why do we meet people who are not meant to stay in our life?

Parents don’t always stay. Neither do friends. And neither do romantic partners.

And then there are those fleeting acquaintances and passing strangers that, for brief but meaningful moments, make a huge impact on us.

And we realize that whatever said and done, some relationships are not meant to last. Most of the people in our life simply come and go.

And you wonder what was it? Did you say something to piss them off? Or are you no good at keeping relationships with anyone? 

And you can’t help but wonder if there was something wrong with you. Why did these people come into our life for just a short time ? Are they our guardian angels or our soulmates?

While this could be taken as negative and, sometimes, even painful, if we look at it differently, we will see the gifts these people came to bring.

When we speak of soulmates, most people think of “the one”—their one true love—or their best friend (whether it’s a parent, sibling, childhood friend, or someone else). We attribute it to that special bond with someone we’ve known most of our life.

But we don’t just have one soulmate. There could be a few or many that become part of our life. They could turn up in different forms and they are brought into our life through synchronicity—or dare I say, destiny.

Soulmate meetings sometimes is only for mere moments, an hour, a day, a decade, a lifetime – this is how souls relate.

But one thing is certain when you meet someone with whom you have shared past lives, there may be a sudden feeling of familiarity, an intuitive knowing of what to say and how they will react, a sense of deep trust and safety. And you feel a sense of comfort and warmth when you are with them.

Yet even this brief amount of time can change one’s life completely.

Of course there’s a sadness that comes with the loss of such deep connection. Often, we become so entangled in the drama of our daily interactions that we fail to see a deeper communion taking place or fail to understand it all together. Soulmates come into our lives to add a deeper meaning, and bring a gift of purposeful growth.

And yes soulmates are never with us always. They come and go within our lifetime and are, quite literally, just passing by.

 

-Madhavi

 

The One

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Love is not supposed to feel like pain.  Love should liberate you from the bondage of attachment. Love is meant to empower you and become your strength. Love should make you feel worthy of yourself. Love is supposed to build you up and make you shine from inside out.

You will know it’s love when you find the one.

He /she won’t be coming into your life with a light over their head looking for you or shouting from rooftops announcing that they are the one.  You won’t feel any butterflies in your stomach or have some fancy dreams like they show in the movies.

It’s going to be a very very ordinary encounter when that special person walks into your life. They will not attempt to stand out of the crowd with their talk and their behaviour.

They will be the quiet and comforting kinds. The one, who will listen to your nonstop idiotic jabber with a wonder in their eyes and a smile on their faces. They will think that you are a complete fool. They will even make fun of your every move and laugh at your nonsense.

But they will be kind, funny and safe.

You will feel like being in the safest place on earth when you are with them. You can sit with them in total silence and it won’t be awkward or boring.

They will win your trust before they win your heart.

They won’t be the most significant person to you at first, but you will be invariably drawn to them like a magnet.  And when they become the most important person in your life you will settle for no other.

You will never question their motive but rather believe them wholeheartedly.

They will be the one who understands your mood by just a text message you send them. They will know and understand that you have your bad days and that you are not perfect in any way, but will stick around you in spite of it all. They will know how to cope with your mood swings and how to control your anger.

They will stand by you; stand by your fears and your dreams, your hopes and your insecurities. They will stand with you and help you build your confidence. They will motivate and inspire you.

They will respect you for who you are, never trying to change you or your beliefs.

They will let you live your life according to your whims .They will protect you and guide you.

They will definitely sweep you off your feet but it will be a slow gradual sweeping- the one you won’t even realize.

They will love you quietly in their own sweet way. But that love will be worth every ounce of its weight in ‘gold’

That’s when you will know whom your heart and soul belongs to.

-M