Living a life less ordinary.

 

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Here’s one of the frustrating things about living a life less ordinary.

When you aren’t following the ‘normal’ rules of society, it can affect free spirits and independent souls like me who are just trying to make the best of what life has offered and are bridging the gap between our dreams and our realities.

Sometimes our friends and loved ones just won’t get what we do and they never will. But what they have a harder time understanding is what YOU do and WHY you do it. It can be frustrating and saddening at the same time. No matter how much you try to explain, what you do and how much energy you put into trying to get someone to understand, sometimes they just WON’T. GET. IT.

They won’t understand your stubbornness, they think you are crazy.

They won’t understand why you go through hell and back to fight for the life you want.

They won’t understand that you’ve grown so much that you never will, and  CAN NEVER, return to the person you once were; your soul just won’t allow it.

They won’t get your vision for your life or relate to your dreams, goals and desires.

And when this happens, for no particular reason you end up being hurt and misunderstood

This is why it is so imperative that you should find and keep friends who are on a similar path to you and who understand you and what you are doing. These people raise you up, cheer you on and celebrate in your successes.

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Having someone who you can relate to and who relates to you is going to make a huge difference.

Accept that not everyone will get who you are and what you do, and learn to be OK with that. It’s not your job to convince them, and the chances are you probably won’t.

Don’t waste your time, energy and emotions into trying to get them to understand. The chances are, as you grow, change and develop, a lot of these people will drift away as the gap between you increases and your journey begins to differ.

Try not to feel sad when it happens because it’s perfectly natural. Nothing stays the same in life and some people are only meant to be in it for a certain period of time.

Never let another person’s lack of understanding stop you from following your dreams and goals. We all have our own paths to follow in life.

Keep to your vision. You have a choice about whether you allow outside influences to affect you, or not.

That’s why I’m writing this to you today, because maybe you have someone like that in your life, or I sincerely hope you find someone like this in your life, someone who will cheer you up and instinctively connect with you, give you their time and energy, and whenever you face a rough patch they’re always there to pick up the pieces.

 

 

Best always

madhavi 🙂

Perfection is a myth.

A man walks out to the street and catches a taxi just going by. He gets into the taxi, and the cabbie says, “Perfect timing. You’re just like Frank.”

Passenger: “Who?”

Cabbie: “Frank Feldman. He’s a guy who did everything right all the time. Like my coming along when you needed a cab, things happened like that to Frank Feldman every single time.”

Passenger: “There are always a few clouds over everybody.”

Cabbie: “Not Frank Feldman. He was a terrific athlete. He could have won the Grand-Slam at tennis. He could golf with the pros. He sang like an opera baritone and danced like a Broadway star and you should have heard him play the piano. He was an amazing guy.”

Passenger: “Sounds like he was really something special.”

Cabbie: “There’s more. He had a memory like a computer. He remembered everybody’s birthday. He knew all about wine, which foods to order and which fork to eat them with. He could fix anything. Not like me. I change a fuse, and the whole street blacks out. But Frank Feldman could do everything right.”

Passenger: “Wow, what a guy!”

Cabbie: ‘He always knew the quickest way to go in traffic and avoid traffic jams. Not like me, I always seem to get stuck in them. But Frank, he never made a mistake, and he really knew how to treat a woman and make her feel good. He would never answer her back even if she was in the wrong; and his clothing was always immaculate, shoes highly polished too. He was the perfect man! He never made a mistake. No one could ever measure up to Frank Feldman.”

Passenger: “How did you meet him?”

Cabbie: “I never actually met Frank. He died and I married his wife.”

Hahahaha………

Well isn’t Perfection such a myth? It’s like climbing a staircase that never ends. Being “perfect” isn’t something that is taught or found in a “how to” book; it’s something you find within yourself. The most important thing is being honest with yourself and accepting who you really are. The moment you’re comfortable in your own skin, and are doing things you love … that’s the moment you’ll know perfection.

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When we are ensnared by the vision of a perfect person, we compare all others to an unreachable standard… and find everyone lacking. Our expectation that a perfect person exists is surely to guarantee failure. The demand for compatibility is never satisfied. When people agree about almost everything, the few points of difference can still seem — to them — enormous. …the ‘right person’ is specified so closely that they will never find such a person; they will always be disappointed because whoever they find will fall short in some way.

Waiting for Mr/Ms Perfect to come along is to say that you have no personal responsibility for what happens to you. When a relationship fails, we do not consider that we might lack humility, empathy or understanding. Instead, we invoke a convenient excuse and say, “We just weren’t right for each other.”

Love is not simply about finding the right person. It’s also about cultivating a set of valuable skills: kindness, sympathy, and understanding. But no matter what, always remember, relationships are hard, complicated, triggering, and yet so utterly worthwhile if we do the work. Love isn’t a state of perfect caring.  To love someone completely one must strive to accept that person exactly the way he or she is, right here and now.

 “Truth is everybody is going to hurt you: you just got to find the ones worth suffering for.”- Bob Marley 

 

Cheers!!:)

Does the world need more wisdom?

Scene of manIf you spend time watching mainstream broadcasting, there is a possibility that you may experience anxiety, concern, and think that the world is falling apart.

We now live in an age where almost everything is a finger’s touch away. The newspapers, the TV channels, the internet are all filled to the brim with news about revolutions in different parts of the world, dictatorships, mass murders, and clash of personalities and opinions.

I wonder if we are drowning in the constant barrage of information. I am definitely overwhelmed by all this info. What’s legit? What is true? Who do I trust?

But am I the only one who feels this way? I think not.

Agreed that we’re well-versed and more educated than our ancestors and yet, we’re the most anxiety-plagued, depression-ridden individuals today.

I feel that something is missing in this overload of information and that something is wisdom.

Wisdom not only about what you know and see, but also the ability to differentiate and judge which aspects of that information is true, accurate, lasting, and applicable to your life.

Wisdom implies listening. Unfortunately most young people today only want to be heard. They do not have the patience to listen and learn. They don’t realize that you can’t learn with your mouth opening.

The cliché ‘Show me your friends, I’ll show you your future’ is so true. If you had parents who always wanted to see the company you kept, you were very lucky. They knew the importance of being surrounded by wise people – people of integrity who live with passion and meaning.

The past is for learning, not living. Wise people remember and learn from the past. But they never live there. They want to make America great again, but that needs progressive governance, not regressive ideas. This is why the world is desperate for wise people.

We react to political or economic sluggishness with rage at the stupidity of those who lead us. We are unwilling to tolerate that human societies are hugely complex machines. A leader needs to be a visionary not a short sighted greedy politician who has vested interests.

The unhappiness of relationships is quickly attributed to being with the wrong person. The courage and strength to form solid relationships is understanding how to make a relationship work and that requires both parties willing to fight for the relationship.

When we meet a stranger, we do not ask them about their ancestors, their religion, or the place they grew up in. We ask them, first and foremost, what they ‘do’, for it is our work that has, more than anything else, come to be seen as the basis of our individuality.

Our society sadly lacks a powerful, wide reaching and reliable institution for promoting a compassionate perspective on life. Today we inhabit a culture that is more interested in humiliating those whose lives have already gone badly wrong.

High ambitions and romanticism can ruin our chances of maintaining decent, realistic relationships in the world we actually live in.

Nature is perhaps the supreme teacher of the idea of wisdom : a tree sprouts its first buds, it then blossoms into a leaf; then its fruit ripen and fall; the leaves then change colour , wither and are blown away by the wind in autumn , leaving the branches bare, until its spring again. Just understanding the recurrent patterns of nature demonstrates us to appreciate the structure of our own lives.wisdom1

Wisdom happens when you take knowledge and apply it in such a way that it adds meaning and has an impact on your life. Age is another irrelevant factor in life smarts. Some people garner wisdom sooner than others, that’s why they are called old souls, since they are quicker to learn what leads to a better life. You will never meet a wise person who isn’t humble. As you grow in wisdom, you grow in awe, reminding you how little you know. Wise people can see the positive side of a negative situation.

Wisdom must be able to guide and instruct you in areas which are beyond your understanding and capacity. Wisdom must harmonize your life. It will establish the priorities of your life and bring you back into right relationship with yourself and with everyone around you.

Sadly we can gain a lifetime of knowledge, yet never see the wisdom in it. We can be wise, but still miss the deeper meaning.

 What do you think?