Let Go!

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IT IS NECESSARY TO LET THINGS GO, BEFORE THEY BECOME TOO HEAVY FOR YOU TO CARRY.

Permanent happiness comes from you choosing to be permanently happy. When you choose happiness, then you attract happiness all around you.

The most INTENSE fight a human will ever have is between the person they are and the person they are capable of becoming.

If you want to SUCCEED in your life, remember this phrase: The past does not equal the future.

Because if you failed yesterday; or all day today; or a moment ago; or for the last six months; the last sixteen years; or the last fifty years of life, doesn’t mean anything. All that matters is: What are you going to do, right NOW?

When you hold on tightly to a thing, an ideology or even an identity, you create an ego around it and you begin to identify with it.

You forget that you are naturally formless and free. Be a mirror reflection of the abundance and infinite potential of the universe that is displayed at that particular time and space.

The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward.

Anger, hatred, jealousy, and many such negative emotions engulf our mind and disturb our peace.

They do not belong in your heart and in your head.

Let them go as they are very heavy and, unhealthy for life:
The past can be our enemy…Let it go.
Guilt can be our enemy…Let it go.
Pride can be our enemy…Let it go.
Ego can be our enemy…Let it go.

Breathe!
If you want wisdom, empty your heart of ignorance. If you want contentment, empty your heart of greed. If you want serenity, empty your heart of ill will.
~Buddha

 

-M

Deeply Connected or Over Emotional?

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I was shopping at a clothing store a few days back when I overheard a couple of young girls passionately discussing and dissecting a forthcoming wedding that was to take place between two of Bollywood’s mega stars.

It was a typical nonsensical and useless tête-à-tête which was none of their business in the first place.

And I don’t know why, but it bothered me. Flimsy stuff like that always bothers me. I couldn’t “shrug things off,” and move on. I was dwelling, and obsessing on that conversation for the whole day. And I couldn’t understand why?

It had nothing to do with me. And everyone has a right to their opinion. So why was this conversation whirring around in my head?

Was it, because I feel emotions more deeply?  And react to things faster, and more intensely than other people do. It’s like getting hit with the first shot of tequila.

And yes, I worry. I worry about this, and that, and every other thing. I don’t shy away from things that make me uncomfortable, because I always seem to be uncomfortable.

I understand that I am not a mess, but a deeply feeling person in a messy world. I cry more than I laugh. I feel more than I should.

But then, I guess when you are connected to everything, you somehow also feel responsible for everything. You just can’t turn your back away from most situations and the people in your life. Your destiny becomes bound with their destiny.

It’s good to feel the pain of others and be compassionate. Empathy is a powerful and arguably rare trait to possess, but the one thing I keep reminding myself is, to be strong enough to love not only my family and friends, but more importantly, myself too.

People like me who feel too much are no strangers to excessive anger, sadness, happiness, etc. They experience every emotion on the spectrum way more deeply than they’d like. Holding back the tidal waves of feelings is just plain impossible. It’s like standing at the edge of the ocean when a giant wave moves in too fast for you to escape it.

You do realise that you don’t control your emotions – they control you. And when you have one of those teary moods, everything and anything whether it is a movie, a book or a song, everything can turn on those waterworks and make you howl.

And as much as I’d like to deny this, I can’t. People, who feel so much, become highly perceptive to other people’s feelings. And honestly, there are very few people who understand the true, inner workings of your mind. They think they know you but in reality they don’t. They can never understand what it is like to feel hurt, or misunderstood, or even ignored.

This is the reason why we appreciate solitude so much. Its only when we are truly alone that we can take the time to deeply reflect upon our feelings. Although it may make us appear to be aloof and stand offish, but in reality this is the time we certainly need to sort through our emotions.

And it explains why we are drawn to other deep and introspective individuals, either in a friendly or romantic way. Their similar mindset, deep talks and wisdom are like an energy bar for our tired souls.

There are probably so many days in a year when I wish I could just “chill out” and take life as it is, but then circumstances take precedence over my needs, and I can’t. But I guess that’s okay. One just learns to live through it.

I just believe in following my heart!!!

Does the world need more wisdom?

Scene of manIf you spend time watching mainstream broadcasting, there is a possibility that you may experience anxiety, concern, and think that the world is falling apart.

We now live in an age where almost everything is a finger’s touch away. The newspapers, the TV channels, the internet are all filled to the brim with news about revolutions in different parts of the world, dictatorships, mass murders, and clash of personalities and opinions.

I wonder if we are drowning in the constant barrage of information. I am definitely overwhelmed by all this info. What’s legit? What is true? Who do I trust?

But am I the only one who feels this way? I think not.

Agreed that we’re well-versed and more educated than our ancestors and yet, we’re the most anxiety-plagued, depression-ridden individuals today.

I feel that something is missing in this overload of information and that something is wisdom.

Wisdom not only about what you know and see, but also the ability to differentiate and judge which aspects of that information is true, accurate, lasting, and applicable to your life.

Wisdom implies listening. Unfortunately most young people today only want to be heard. They do not have the patience to listen and learn. They don’t realize that you can’t learn with your mouth opening.

The cliché ‘Show me your friends, I’ll show you your future’ is so true. If you had parents who always wanted to see the company you kept, you were very lucky. They knew the importance of being surrounded by wise people – people of integrity who live with passion and meaning.

The past is for learning, not living. Wise people remember and learn from the past. But they never live there. They want to make America great again, but that needs progressive governance, not regressive ideas. This is why the world is desperate for wise people.

We react to political or economic sluggishness with rage at the stupidity of those who lead us. We are unwilling to tolerate that human societies are hugely complex machines. A leader needs to be a visionary not a short sighted greedy politician who has vested interests.

The unhappiness of relationships is quickly attributed to being with the wrong person. The courage and strength to form solid relationships is understanding how to make a relationship work and that requires both parties willing to fight for the relationship.

When we meet a stranger, we do not ask them about their ancestors, their religion, or the place they grew up in. We ask them, first and foremost, what they ‘do’, for it is our work that has, more than anything else, come to be seen as the basis of our individuality.

Our society sadly lacks a powerful, wide reaching and reliable institution for promoting a compassionate perspective on life. Today we inhabit a culture that is more interested in humiliating those whose lives have already gone badly wrong.

High ambitions and romanticism can ruin our chances of maintaining decent, realistic relationships in the world we actually live in.

Nature is perhaps the supreme teacher of the idea of wisdom : a tree sprouts its first buds, it then blossoms into a leaf; then its fruit ripen and fall; the leaves then change colour , wither and are blown away by the wind in autumn , leaving the branches bare, until its spring again. Just understanding the recurrent patterns of nature demonstrates us to appreciate the structure of our own lives.wisdom1

Wisdom happens when you take knowledge and apply it in such a way that it adds meaning and has an impact on your life. Age is another irrelevant factor in life smarts. Some people garner wisdom sooner than others, that’s why they are called old souls, since they are quicker to learn what leads to a better life. You will never meet a wise person who isn’t humble. As you grow in wisdom, you grow in awe, reminding you how little you know. Wise people can see the positive side of a negative situation.

Wisdom must be able to guide and instruct you in areas which are beyond your understanding and capacity. Wisdom must harmonize your life. It will establish the priorities of your life and bring you back into right relationship with yourself and with everyone around you.

Sadly we can gain a lifetime of knowledge, yet never see the wisdom in it. We can be wise, but still miss the deeper meaning.

 What do you think?